Eff that, i wouldn't give them anything...not even for the child (maybe that is what they are hoping for as well). They said they don't need anything, so they wouldn't get anything.
Instead i'd probably give the money/ a gift to the family member that is actually funding this party. I have family members that are very similar to your relative, who will help out regardless. So I think it would be a nice gesture.
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