How did you tell your parents?

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by CDancer20

I apologize if you feel that I came off with too much information, but I have to disagree with you for 3 reasons.

1-I did not reveal what sorority my mom is in nor which one my sister is trying to join. Nor did I say either was a D9, so that could be dozens of different possibilites.

I beg to differ. You referenced the NPHC sororities which are part of the D9.

2-It is not uncommon for a student who is not working, but only a full-time student, to ask his/her parents for the money and/or take out a student loan to pay for the process.

By talking about this you introduced your Dad into it telling us he and your mother were no longer married. We didn't have to know that. And I bet your Mom wouldn't appreciate her business being told to complete strangers.

3-My sister isn't the first, second, or last person that will not join her mother (or his father)'s sorority/fraternity.

That was never the issue. The issue was the mother not being told in advance.

A bit of advice: quit before you dig your hole deeper.

[CDancer20]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

I beg to differ. You referenced the NPHC sororities which are part of the D9.


By talking about this you introduced your Dad into it telling us he and your mother were no longer married. We didn't have to know that. And I bet your Mom wouldn't appreciate her business being told to complete strangers.


That was never the issue. The issue was the mother not being told in advance.

A bit of advice: quit before you dig your hole deeper.

Ok I did say that my sister was looking 1 of the 4 sororities (D9) but not that my mom was in a D9. Note that I am not the OP of this message. And my parents have been divorced for over 15 years lol. It's not that big of a secret or a big deal anymore. The reason I mentioned them being divorced was as a way of saying that its not like she purposely went home and pulled my dad aside to ask for the money behind my mom's back. She didn't plan to tell my dad either until she realized she needed the money. My sister won't be the first person either to not tell her parents upfront that she was going thru MIP of a greek org.

I am not the person going through the process. The reason I am still talking because I wanted to point out that I felt differently about previous posts that I am oversharing. I have never heard of "the call" either, but I am only going by what I was told was going to happen. Obviously different sororities and/or different chapters do things differently. I would understand your concern if I was like "yea my sister is going through MIP for Xi Chi Beta and we live in missouri and she goes to the University of Missouri."(for example). Everything that I have listed here have been basic questions that any person could go through. People get divorced ALL THE TIME. Students go to one parent over the other when they need money. Plus I am sure that not ALL students run home to tell their parents the minute they get the phone call that they were selected to go through MIP for the sorority/fraternity. Nothing new there guys.

And the original question: How do you tell your mom you are joining a different sorority before she finds out through an outside source?