Resigning/Disaffiliating... Help!!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by gagirl90

Hey yall!
I have a question about resigning from my national GLO and would love your insight especially if you have been through the same thing.

I rushed last year (as a freshman, and we have deferred rush) and pledged a house that seemed like really chill girls. Now all anyone cares about is becoming more top tier (to be honest we're one of the less popular houses on campus but still have great girls and meet quota) and portraying this Suzie sorority overachiever stereotype, which is so not me. Yes I have a great resume, but I don't need to flaunt it! I feel ostracized the majority of the time for not fitting in well with the girls in the house and feel like a black sheep. I am also unpopular with our exec board and standards board because I am THAT girl who will speak up when something isn't right and I am not intimidated by their authority and will defend myself when necessary.
Recently, I have been accused of some illegal activities that I did NOT do, yet our standards board has seen it fit to put my membership under question and watch me like big brother despite my denial. Forget looking for evidence, I have seen that they will turn on me in a second from one rumor! Worst: the girls were not even concerned for my wellbeing or health if the rumor were true, they only cared about the negative image I seem to portray on them (lets forget for a second how devastated I might be about my reputation, no need to comfort me like sisters). Furthermore, according to our bylaws, if I were not in letters, at an XYZ event or otherwise blatantly representing the chapter, I cannot be punished by standards for my actions. Even if the allegations were true, my sisters were wrong for taking disciplinary actions!
Because of this event and prior sentiments, I have considered resigning and would love insight into this situation from anyone, especially if you have been through anything similar. I know these girls are not healthy for my self esteem or mental health (I have been through awful depression from incidents in my sorority and have sought therapy) but I am scared to be an independent at a greek-heavy sec school - I don't want to feel left out. Also I always wanted to be part of an alum group when I'm older..
Please help! Tell me about the decisions you made and how they worked out.
Thanks everyone!

My opinion: Talk to someone you can trust regarding the situation.

Alot of times, people come to the internet already KNOWING what they want to do, and looking for validation of their decisions (ex: looking for us to be like "OMG your sisters are sooooo mean.")

We aren't going to do that. You need to make the decision for yourself.

[gagirl90]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

My opinion: Talk to someone you can trust regarding the situation.

Alot of times, people come to the internet already KNOWING what they want to do, and looking for validation of their decisions (ex: looking for us to be like "OMG your sisters are sooooo mean.")

We aren't going to do that. You need to make the decision for yourself.

Right, thanks so much
I was more looking for advice from someone who has been through something similar and thoughts/regrets/positive outcomes of their decisions.

And the last post about reevaluating becoming "top tier" really helped. It just seems like people lose sight of what is important in that.