Did it take you a while to "fit in?"

[ASAlamb]

It took me two years to find my absolute best friends in my sorority. I was friendly with everyone, hung out, but it wasn't until this past year that I truly found my lifelong best friends.

The funny thing is, some of my best friends now are girls I was really intimidated by as a new member. They all have really strong personalities, and I had to find myself before I could find my best friends and place in my sorority.

[33girl]

Also, even if you don't live at the house or suite yet, don't be afraid to drop over on the spur of the moment and just hang out. It is your HOME!! I know some houses or suites might have security barriers, but just call the housemother or person in charge and let them know you're coming to visit.

I lived at the house and we LOVED when girls who didn't live there just dropped in randomly between classes and watched TV with us and such. It might feel awkward to you at first, but everyone else has been where you are.

[MaggieXi]

I felt like I didn't really fit in or click with the girls in my pledge class - which was very cliquey. After the flury of the new member period ended and after initiation, I found 1 or 2 other girls who I became good friends with. As time went by, I ended up having good friends and "my group" within the sorority that was made up of both girls that were older than me and girls that were younger than me.

[ISUKappa]

Originally Posted by ASAlamb

It took me two years to find my absolute best friends in my sorority. I was friendly with everyone, hung out, but it wasn't until this past year that I truly found my lifelong best friends.

The funny thing is, some of my best friends now are girls I was really intimidated by as a new member. They all have really strong personalities, and I had to find myself before I could find my best friends and place in my sorority.

I love this.

Even after moving into the house, it took me a bit to feel comfortable and really feel like I "belonged." It doesn't happen overnight, but sometimes all it takes is for one event (work week before recruitment, planning for initiation, getting ready for a philanthropy, or even a formal) to find that connection with your sisters. One thing is certain, you are not the only one who has ever felt this way, and you are most likely not the only one in your chapter who feels this way.

[APhiAnna]

A lot of people feel this way! I think I told this story before, but there was a girl in our chapter who just did not have any friends in her pledge class. You could tell she wanted to be in the sorority, but felt uncomfortable at the socials, philanthropies, etc because she didn't know anybody.

After a couple years, she decided to participate in a dance competition amongst the sororities for a philanthropy. She was a fairly good dancer. Just during the few weeks she practiced with them, she became close friends with a majority of the other dancers. Now she is thriving and is friends with the vast majority of the chapter.

The key is something like a committee, intramural team, team for Derby Days/Greek Week/Homecoming (whatever your school has), Bible study, etc. The reason being is that there are going to be sisters from every year, group of friends, etc in that particular activity. If you are the sister who mainly shows up to socials and meetings, your whole chapter will be there and girls will mostly be socializing with their best friends already. If you join an activity that is a cross-section of the entire chapter, people will be much more willing to interact with members they don't know as well. It becomes a domino effect...at the next social, you will feel comfortable hanging out with Jenny Junior, and through her you will meet her friends, etc.