My (mostly) live COB recruitment!

[prettyv]

Thank you, everyone

My second "date" was very casual. There were only 4 sisters and me, out for coffee and a school pep rally. I was a little late to meet them because a midterm I had ran late... I was panicking a bit and played some phone tag while speed walking around trying to find where I was supposed to meet them. I had a lot of fun laughing with the sisters and cheering. There was a huge rainstorm that came at the end of the night which made me look like a horrible drowned rat by the end! The other sisters didn't look so hot either so I hope that didn't matter.

Note to self: BUY WATERPROOF MASCARA.

I know COB is supposed to be informal by nature, but it seems.. SO casual... I mean, we didn't talk at all about XYZ this night and only a little bit on the first night. I don't know what to think! Should I be bringing it up and asking questions or just hanging out and getting to know them like any other friend? I want them to know I'm interested in joining without coming across as pushy or too forward... I love my mom's advice: "Why don't you just ask for a bid?"

I have my next event tomorrow, so I'll let you know how it all goes

[CougarGrad]

Originally Posted by prettyv

Note to self: BUY WATERPROOF MASCARA.

I love my mom's advice: "Why don't you just ask for a bid?"

The first sentence is quoted because it made me smile. That's great advice for the advice thread we have here somewhere.

The second sentence is quoted because it also made me smile and think, "Bless mom's little heart."

Remember that the sisters are getting to know you, and hanging out and doing fun things with you is something that doesn't happen during formal recruitment. You can make opportunities to talk about XYZ-specific things at your next events- or someone may even ask you what questions you have. They know that you don't get a "philanthropy day slide show/talk/etc" since you're going through COB, so I wouldn't sweat it at this point.

You sound like you're having a lot of fun! Good luck!!

[PsychTau]

Originally Posted by prettyv

I know COB is supposed to be informal by nature, but it seems.. SO casual... I mean, we didn't talk at all about XYZ this night and only a little bit on the first night. I don't know what to think!

This is exactly how COB is supposed to go (any recruitment really, but Formal makes this difficult). You are supposed to be getting to know the women personally because they might be your sisters someday. They want to see if you have the qualities they are looking for in a sister. The info about the chapter will come out during the conversation..don't worry! Don't be afraid to ask about their chapter activities if it feels natural during the conversation, but don't be too pushy either. Just stay relaxed!

Good luck! Can't wait to hear what happens next!

PsychTau

[prettyv]

Originally Posted by PsychTau

This is exactly how COB is supposed to go (any recruitment really, but Formal makes this difficult). You are supposed to be getting to know the women personally because they might be your sisters someday. They want to see if you have the qualities they are looking for in a sister. The info about the chapter will come out during the conversation..don't worry! Don't be afraid to ask about their chapter activities if it feels natural during the conversation, but don't be too pushy either. Just stay relaxed!

Thank you! I needed to read that. I have no one to really ask if this is "normal" or what not!

It was an excruciating wait for today. At the first event the girls invited me to the second at the party, but I was sitting waiting for a while for an invite to this!

So today (Day 3), I went shopping and for lunch with 5 sisters. I had met all but 1 of them at one of the other activities and Sue was finally able to come, so it was nice to have a familiar crowd. I had a really great time again. I'm really astounded at how good they are at making you feel welcome in a group. I mean, most of the time when you make a group of new friends someone is always kind of left out, but not with these girls! I don't know if it's because (I feel) like our personalities mesh well or if they're just really good at rushing and therefore making the PNM feel welcome. At the first event I was shocked at how well they "bumped" you without it feeling forced or weird. It was a smooth transition to talking to the next girl and it took me an hour to realize that's what they were doing!

These are really the kind of girls I want to be friends with. It'll be another (brutal) wait to see if I get invited to another event, but I promise to let you all know either way!!!

And thanks for your support, it's nice to know people are reading and pulling for me

[KD4Me]

I know COB is supposed to be informal by nature, but it seems.. SO casual... I mean, we didn't talk at all about XYZ this night and only a little bit on the first night. I don't know what to think! Should I be bringing it up and asking questions or just hanging out and getting to know them like any other friend? [/QUOTE]

Sorry to be somewhat off-topic, but this reminded me of when I was in college and we were "rushing" two best friends during informal recruitment. We were a little too smooth about it, and they didn't know for sure if that's what was going on. They were excited when we gave them bids, but confessed later that they had been trying to figure out if we just wanted to hang out, or if we wanted them in our sorority. Guess we didn't want to scare them off with all the "sorority talk"! We should have mentioned the benefits of being in our sorority at least once during all of that time.