Informal Rush (not everyone participates) Problem

[dani13]

Thanks so much for all the responses. I went last night, and had a good time. It turns out I had missed an event, but I talked to the chapter president and she said there were still several more events and that it was fine.

The new problem seems to be that everyone already knows everyone. I did my best to be outgoing and make a good impression. The girls were a lot of fun.

If I don't recieve a bid then I guess I'm not meant to be there.

But as far as my school is concerned it's not really that competitive and the one that i like that isnt doing Spring took in multiple sophomores last year.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by dani13

Thanks so much for all the responses. I went last night, and had a good time. It turns out I had missed an event, but I talked to the chapter president and she said there were still several more events and that it was fine.

The new problem seems to be that everyone already knows everyone. I did my best to be outgoing and make a good impression. The girls were a lot of fun.

If I don't recieve a bid then I guess I'm not meant to be there.

But as far as my school is concerned it's not really that competitive and the one that i like that isnt doing Spring took in multiple sophomores last year.

Why is it a problem that people know each other? In NPC sororities, it's not forbidden (it's actually encouraged) to get to know as many people as possible.

If you don't get a bid in informal, it may likely be because there are only a few spots open. They may absolutely love you, but if you and five other girls have similar grades, good personalities, activities, etc., and they only have 3 spots, only 3 can make it in. Only members know what criteria they use to select new members, and you might be the very next one on the list (for whatever reason). There have been many girls who go through informal, don't get a bid, but the sorority is psyched to see you in the following formal recruitment.

WE DON'T KNOW, and you can only do your best and be yourself.

Good luck.

[dani13]

[QUOTE=ree-Xi;1895923]Why is it a problem that people know each other? In NPC sororities, it's not forbidden (it's actually encouraged) to get to know as many people as possible.



What I meant by everyone knowing each other, is that all of the PNMs seem to know current members and seem to be fairly close friends with them. And it's not a problem, I'm just the only one that does not already have friends in the sorority. Example: one girl walks in and says "What's your name? Do you know anyone here?" And when I say that I do not, she says, "D*mn. That's balls-y."