More Men are Marrying Wealthier Women

[AOII Angel]

I agree with what y'all have said about the joint/separate accounts. For a lot of couples, one or both spouses will or can't make themselves see that the wants/needs of the other spouse are as important as their own. I have good friends like this, and they have to keep completely separate accounts because the husband is a complete jerk about money. My husband and I look at them and think it's really sad that they fight over such superficial things, but then again, every couple has their issues. My husband and I just both happen to be pretty free spenders. When we're running low, my husband gives me a gentle warning, but he wouldn't dream of making me beg for a pair of shoes I wanted! :O

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I agree with what y'all have said about the joint/separate accounts. For a lot of couples, one or both spouses will or can't make themselves see that the wants/needs of the other spouse are as important as their own. I have good friends like this, and they have to keep completely separate accounts because the husband is a complete jerk about money. My husband and I look at them and think it's really sad that they fight over such superficial things, but then again, every couple has their issues. My husband and I just both happen to be pretty free spenders. When we're running low, my husband gives me a gentle warning, but he wouldn't dream of making me beg for a pair of shoes I wanted! :O

I agree with everything you've said.

As for the gentle warning, I want those to be reserved for family/couple expenses.

(This wouldn't happen but) If my husband wanted a balance of $0 on his separate account because he's been too free with his own account, that's completely on him. LOL.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I agree with everything you've said.

As for the gentle warning, I want those to be reserved for family/couple expenses.

(This wouldn't happen but) If my husband wanted a balance of $0 on his separate account because he's been too free with his own account, that's completely on him. LOL.

He has to give me a warning because I purposely NEVER know how much money we have in our account. If our account runs low, he tells me not to spend more than X amount until my next check comes in. If I wanted to express more interest in our finances it would be a different story, but obsessing about money isn't worth it to me. I buy what I want when I want. When that isn't possible, maybe I'll pay more attention. I actually do have my personal account (business account), but my husband manages that too.