Being too open during recruitment?

[PhiSigStarlight]

I don't think that it would be a bad thing at all! Have you interacted with this sorority before? Make sure you get along with the girls too and don't just like the sorority in general. I'm interested in a lot of sororities' history, philanthropy, etc, but I wouldn't favor a certain group based on that alone.

But anyway, if I met a PNM who already knew about our values, philanthropy, and everything, I would personally be pretty impressed with them. I think you should mention something to them about how you looked into them by finding about their values and such and that you really liked them. I don't think it would go against them or seem weird at all.

Sororities do look at how a person presents themselves with their appearance. Not in the sense that you have to look like a supermodel, but that you look nice & presentable. For a COB, the outfit you described would be just fine.

[FSUZeta]

different people react differently. PhiSigStarlight would be impressed, but to other people you might come across as stalkerish. i would recommend not coming on too strong at your first event and definately try to get a feel for the
person who is your host before you share your innermost feelings with her. pace yourself!

additionally, don't put all your eggs in one basket. if any other sororities are holding cob events, why not check them out too? if it fits into your schedule, why not attend as many first night parties are you can, just to make sure that this sorority is the best fit for you?

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

different people react differently.

This.

And different chapters and different campuses react differently too. And different people within the same chapter, and different chapters within the same campus will react differently.

The problem with asking for advice with recruitment on the internet is that while there are a few universal answers, most questions will yeild as many different answers as individuals, chapters and campuses that are out there. What PhiSig said clearly works for her and possibly her chapter, but for me and my chapter it would have been a little over the top.

Go to the event. Smile. Converse. Have fun and let that show. Pace yourself and definitely "read" the person that you are talking to. If it looks like your enthusiam is coming across as stalkerish, then it probably is.

Also, part of being "open-minded," which you claim to be, means looking at all the chapters. Not just the one that you think is the best for you. Remember, the ladies in the chapter get a say too.

Best of luck.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

This.

And different chapters and different campuses react differently too. And different people within the same chapter, and different chapters within the same campus will react differently.

The problem with asking for advice with recruitment on the internet is that while there are a few universal answers, most questions will yeild as many different answers as individuals, chapters and campuses that are out there. What PhiSig said clearly works for her and possibly her chapter, but for me and my chapter it would have been a little over the top.

Go to the event. Smile. Converse. Have fun and let that show. Pace yourself and definitely "read" the person that you are talking to. If it looks like your enthusiam is coming across as stalkerish, then it probably is.

Also, part of being "open-minded," which you claim to be, means looking at all the chapters. Not just the one that you think is the best for you. Remember, the ladies in the chapter get a say too.

Best of luck.

I could not agree more with FSU Zeta, Gee Ess, Gusteau, and Blondie93.

Consider that your enthusiasm and research might be ratcheted down a notch or two. Relax and focus on being a good listener when engaged in conversation. That is a skill that can be learned and the person you're talking with will think you are fascinating. Honest! It works!

Keep an open mind, please. I started recruitment thinking that I wanted to be a QRS and then ended up with ABC and XYZ at preference, which was a total shock, since I did not think I had a snowball's chance in hades with either house. Who knew?

[33girl]

Good: "I saw that your philanthropy is Special Olympics. I've helped with SO events before, I really enjoyed it - do you do a lot of activities with the local SO organization?"

Bad: "I read your core values on your website and they are so similar to how I live my own life. My favorite core value is integrity...I live this every day by {insert long winded example here}."

Echoing everyone who says if there are other sororities holding informal events, attend those as well. This sorority may look great from a distance/on paper, but actually interacting with the women might be another story. In other words:



Don't do this.