A unique and kind of sad recruit story - Page 6

KD4Me · #1 01-21-2010, 07:10 PM

Is that a real picture of Christopher Meloni? I've always loved him, but that is just not quite right!

AOEforme · #2 01-21-2010, 07:34 PM

This whole thing was/is just icky. It never, ever seemed like a "complement". Where did she ever complement Greek Women?

I especially dislike the part where Recruitment gives her a panic attack because she's being judged. I'm pretty sure as a theater major, you'd have to deal with rejectment and the like constantly.

33girl · #3 01-21-2010, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

I don't know what you think you read, but there is nothing I have written on GC that stated or implied what you are inferring. It simply isn't true. The only way someone could come to that conclusion is to read their own ideas into something I've written.

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...29#post1719829 perhaps?

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Is this the "sad" part of your "Unique and kind of Sad" story? I'm still confused as to why you posted it.

One of the girls in my pledge class wore a banana clip in her senior picture. That was questionable, unique, and kind of sad. (She was terminated by then though. She sent me on a blind date with a man wearing polyester high waters and an eagle necklace.)

aopirose · #4 01-22-2010, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

(She was terminated by then though. She sent me on a blind date with a man wearing polyester high waters and an eagle necklace.)

Bwaahaaa...

33girl · #5 01-22-2010, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by aopirose

Bwaahaaa...

SERIOUSLY. The cherry red stapler guy in Office Space? A 20 year old version of that. And I thought well...looks aren't everything...so I tried to engage him in conversation. He answered all my questions with one word answers and didn't ask me anything. He left halfway through the party and I didn't even notice.

I've seen better CM photos too (I was looking for one of him wearing a thermal undershirt, DROOL) but I couldn't find them.

I don't know if that was the right TriDeltSallie thread (there are a few that were closed) so Barbie's going to have to tell me if I was right.

FSUZeta · #6 01-21-2010, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by AOEforme

I especially dislike the part where Recruitment gives her a panic attack because she's being judged. I'm pretty sure as a theater major, you'd have to deal with rejectment and the like constantly.

this! you are constantly being judged as a theater major and as an actress. although they are usually worried about rejection

AOEforme · #7 01-21-2010, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

this! you are constantly being judged as a theater major and as an actress. although they are usually worried about rejection

Boo- I thought you'd enjoy the reference to another trainwreck of a thread.

But that's my point: you do face judgement and rejection in all areas and walks of life. But, as an actress, it seems you are especially prone to constant scrutiny.

agzg · #8 01-21-2010, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by AOEforme

Boo- I thought you'd enjoy the reference to another trainwreck of a thread.

I got it... and snorted. Sometimes I'm not so ladylike.

FSUZeta · #9 01-22-2010, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by AOEforme

Boo- I thought you'd enjoy the reference to another trainwreck of a thread.

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ha ha-well, i wondered-you are always so on the ball. i should have known you were making a joke!

AOEforme · #10 01-22-2010, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

ha ha-well, i wondered-you are always so on the ball. i should have known you were making a joke!

Thank you!

Today, that is not so true.... I woke up at 10:30 this morning, late for work and for my 8 AM class because I set my alarm for 6:30 PM. Hurrah.

/end hijack

GTAlphaPhi · #11 01-21-2010, 08:01 PM

Even though the OP was generally positive about my sorority (but thought them "cold" and "stagnant" and ranked them in the last quartile), I didn't really care. Each chapter is different at each school. What I didn't appreciate was her decision to reveal her entire code. I can't even remember the last time I've seen someone do that. I feel like sorority identities should only be revealed in a maximum of three places, maybe four, in a given recruitment story:

1) The sorority that extended you a bid at the end (duh!).

2) The sorority that ended up being your second choice at the end of recruitment if and only if they were a super-close second (or tied with first) and you had only great things to write about them.

3) If you chose to list all of the sororities at the very beginning of your story. (E.g. "I go a public university in the southeast and my school has 7 sororities: A, B, C, D, E, F, and G.)

4) If you choose to mention (at the beginning of the story) that you hold a legacy status with any of the groups --- but only if you have positive or neutral things to say about that group further along in your story!

Of course, if your story doesn't have a happy ending (ahem!) or you're less than thrilled with your eventual bid, it may be wiser to not reveal any part of your code -- at all. It should go without saying that smart storytellers don't mention any identifying details of the inter/national organization or a specific chapter (including their house!). No mention of colors, symbols, song/chant lyrics, detailed descriptions of a house's façade, etc.

OK, end of rant.

AXiDMeesh · #12 01-21-2010, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by GTAlphaPhi

Even though the OP was generally positive about my sorority (but thought them "cold" and "stagnant" and ranked them in the last quartile), I didn't really care. Each chapter is different at each school. What I didn't appreciate was her decision to reveal her entire code. I can't even remember the last time I've seen someone do that. I feel like sorority identities should only be revealed in a maximum of three places, maybe four, in a given recruitment story:

Well when I wrote my recruitment story I revealed the sororities, but I knew I was going to do that so I purposely didn't say anything bad about them. OP trashed AND revealed them, and that was just plain distasteful.

GTAlphaPhi · #13 01-21-2010, 08:18 PM

That's because you were one of those smart storytellers!

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Originally Posted by AXiDMeesh

Well when I wrote my recruitment story I revealed the sororities, but I knew I was going to do that so I purposely didn't say anything bad about them. OP trashed AND revealed them, and that was just plain distasteful.

gee_ess · #14 01-21-2010, 08:08 PM

I vote for the unresolved issues theory. I think the OP has regrets, unfulfilled goals, etc and this is just one of them. I don't think she can get past the whole experience, and would like to reach out to the Greek community for validation.

Bless her heart...(said with a southern drawl)

ETA - for the record - I do not think Trideltsallie has a reputation for being an "upper tier hater." I don't get that, even after reviewing the thread that 33girl linked.

ellebud · #15 01-21-2010, 08:39 PM

Ok, my two cents: As a mother of three kids I understand stress. I know sadness and having relatives (parents and grandparents) die. As a cancer survivor I understand the toll that illness plays on your body and soul BUT...how many times (sometimes with a good or bad response) has a sister, during Pref, talked about how her sisters helped her through the tough times in life? Heck, my sisters helped me (as an adult) get through cancer treatment. This is a story, assuming that all is true, of how not to grow up, how the OP failed sisterhood, and the failure to grow as a person by outgrowing the slings and arrows of high school.

Life is filled with what ifs. I think that many of us, at a certain age, certainly say that more than a teenager or young adult. But it is what you do with your ruminations that proves your metal as an adult. A sister rolled her eyes at you during recruitment? Maybe she did, maybe she didn't. So what? That might give you pause, but it shouldn't rule your life. You didn't like your sorority? Make it better. You had problems with your sisters? Try and find one or two you do like and see how the situation improves. Can't find ANY sisters that you are compatible with? Look homeward angel.

This thread does have educational value in the sense that I compared it to my daughter's recent recruitment. Both girls were ambivelent about the process. Both girls (and all girls going through) were afraid of rejection. Both had second thoughts (ok..mine for 5 seconds) about joining. The difference? My daughter has made friends and loves her house. She stuck it out during the first days of change, a change which is difficult for everyone. And my daughter (obnoxious bragging, I'm sorry) hasn't blamed anyone for what didn't happen.