Are Black Women Scaring Off Black Men

[ladygreek]

Another resurrection. *yawn*

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Another resurrection. *yawn*

And another one for hilarity.

I was reading an article about Black women damaging their hair with braids and weaves. http://hellobeautiful.com/style-beau...weaves-braids/

This study found something that many of us had always been taught about braids and weaves. There were a couple of dumb comments in the comments section. Perhaps the dumbest ones were (1) a man saying that Black women are harming themselves to look like white women; and (2) a man saying that he no longer dates Black women (yaaaaaaay ) because so many are no longer "real."

The other day, another Black man who is near and dear to my heart told me why he doesn't date Black women. We talk too much and think we're too liberated to be guided by a man; and a man's guidance and protection is what God intended. I didn't ask him any of this but he felt like sharing. I was initially shocked but found it very funny. He was dramatic and extremely serious. He was angered that I found it funny and said he'd "pray" for me. Amen, homie, amen. Same shit, different toilet. Still funny.

[TonyB06]

...not real ones.

Parts of this thread are so laughable I had to make sure this wasn't April 1.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

And another one for hilarity.

I was reading an article about Black women damaging their hair with braids and weaves. http://hellobeautiful.com/style-beau...weaves-braids/

This study found something that many of us had always been taught about braids and weaves. There were a couple of dumb comments in the comments section. Perhaps the dumbest ones were (1) a man saying that Black women are harming themselves to look like white women; and (2) a man saying that he no longer dates Black women (yaaaaaaay ) because so many are no longer "real."

The other day, another Black man who is near and dear to my heart told me why he doesn't date Black women. We talk too much and think we're too liberated to be guided by a man; and a man's guidance and protection is what God intended. I didn't ask him any of this but he felt like sharing. I was initially shocked but found it very funny. He was dramatic and extremely serious. He was angered that I found it funny and said he'd "pray" for me. Amen, homie, amen. Same shit, different toilet. Still funny.

The comments section is 70% troll anyway so I rarely pay attention to that part when dealing with Black women.

As for your friend, his is not a black woman issue but a him issue. Usually (not everytime) black men that make this assertion purposely attract that kind of woman.

I tell my wife all the time, that I've never had a crazy ex story in my past. Every woman I've dated has been sane and don't fall into the "stereotype" that black women seem to have been latched with. When I actually thought of that and sat down, I realized it wasn't that I was just that good selecting level headed black women, it was more so a certain reality that people always says, "You are what you attract." I've never attracted the loud chick. They never liked me. I liked them, they never liked me. It's like the "I don't want a gold digger." But you are flashing cash in the club.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

...it was more so a certain reality that people always says, "You are what you attract." I've never attracted the loud chick. They never liked me. I liked them, they never liked me. It's like the "I don't want a gold digger." But you are flashing cash in the club.

More people need to understand this concept.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

More people need to understand this concept.

I spend about an hour a week trying to pound it into my clients' heads. "Unhealthy people attract unhealthy people" "But some women WANT to get treated lik.." "UNHEALTHY PEOPLE ATTRACT UNHEALTHY PEOPLE."

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

"You are what you attract." .

I know I'm way out of my lane, it's just that I don't know if I totally agree with this. I do to some degree but, not 100%. I mean, if I understand your post correctly, there are some people with good character and morals who may attract someone who's the total opposite. I've attracted bad guys before but, that doesn't make me a bad person. That's just the physical part of attraction. I think the key to attracting what you want (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) is being/becoming what you want to attract, not so much "you are what you attract". If a guy wants a together woman, then he needs to be a together man and vice versa. I just think that if you happen to attract someone who isn't on your level, or has bad character, that doesn't make you what they are. This isn't directed to you, but in general, --perhaps that someone who would be exciting to you would not be excited by you because, maybe you aren't doing anything for yourself or you're not walking in the same direction that person is walking.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I know I'm way out of my lane, it's just that I don't know if I totally agree with this. I do to some degree but, not 100%. I mean, if I understand your post correctly, there are some people with good character and morals who may attract someone who's the total opposite. I've attracted bad guys before but, that doesn't make me a bad person. That's just the physical part of attraction. I think the key to attracting what you want (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) is being/becoming what you want to attract, not so much "you are what you attract". If a guy wants a together woman, then he needs to be a together man and vice versa. I just think that if you happen to attract someone who isn't on your level, or has bad character, that doesn't make you what they are. This isn't directed to you, but in general, --perhaps that someone who would be exciting to you would not be excited by you because, maybe you aren't doing anything for yourself or you're not walking in the same direction that person is walking.

Semantics.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I know I'm way out of my lane, it's just that I don't know if I totally agree with this. I do to some degree but, not 100%. I mean, if I understand your post correctly, there are some people with good character and morals who may attract someone who's the total opposite. I've attracted bad guys before but, that doesn't make me a bad person. That's just the physical part of attraction. I think the key to attracting what you want (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) is being/becoming what you want to attract, not so much "you are what you attract". If a guy wants a together woman, then he needs to be a together man and vice versa. I just think that if you happen to attract someone who isn't on your level, or has bad character, that doesn't make you what they are. This isn't directed to you, but in general, --perhaps that someone who would be exciting to you would not be excited by you because, maybe you aren't doing anything for yourself or you're not walking in the same direction that person is walking.

Like Preciousjeni said, Semantics. We are saying the same thing, I just used the term I've always heard.