Recommendation Caution to PNM's

[Zillini]

I suspect is it their subtle way of attempting to discourage campuses that have become so Rec oriented that not having one becomes cause for being dropped. It should not be held against a PNM if she has never met an XYZ in her life, so therefore has no chance of obtaining a Rec. Or those who are the first in their family to ever go Greek, maybe even go to college, should not be punished simply for not understanding the process.

However, what they cannot do is change campus cultures that are like this and it's unfair to the PNMs to try to ignore it. All it accomplishes is creating disappointment and resentment within those PNMs who weren't in the loop. So why prevent an individual campus Panhellenic from communicating accurate info to their PNMs?

[exlurker]

Catching up on posts in this thred, I was struck by this statement in the NPC resolution:

"Resolved, That remuneration from the potential new member or her family for any such letter is inappropriate. "

To anyone's knowledge does this happen with any noticeable frequency? I can't imagine someone paying for a rec, but then again I try not to let anything surprise me when it comes to Greek life at some schools / in some areas.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by exlurker

Catching up on posts in this thred, I was struck by this statement in the NPC resolution:

"Resolved, That remuneration from the potential new member or her family for any such letter is inappropriate. "

To anyone's knowledge does this happen with any noticeable frequency? I can't imagine someone paying for a rec, but then again I try not to let anything surprise me when it comes to Greek life at some schools / in some areas.

oh yes! Somewhere around here there is a thread about a website that will secure your rec for you, at a cost of $20! The site will get you a rec to any organization, but the shadiest part of it is that there is no oversite to ensure that the women who are purporting to be alumnae of said organizations actually are. (alumnae can also register with the site to be the rec writers.)

Even sadder? The owner of the site is a sorority alumna.