Why are you NOT involved in an Alumni/ae Association?

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by denitta

Hey all,

I am interested in finding out (in general, not specific to your GLO) if you are involved as a member of an alumni/ae chapter and if not, are there any reasons specifically why not? (don't have time, not interested in XYZ)

I appreciate any information you can give me!!

Best wishes to all!

I'm not invloved for two reasons- the first is time- with three kids (ages 2-7) plus working full time, I am pretty busy.

The second reason- I am a wimp. I HATE going places (to meetings, gatherings) where I don't know anyone. Especially when the meeting is at someone's house. So the idea of going to someone's home whom I don't know for a meeting full of people I don't know based off of a generic newsletter that was sent is enough to send me into a full blown anxiety attack.

Maybe if someone contacted me over the phone and I met them first, I would do it. But I don't exepct the alumnae chapter to do that. I do want to eventually get over this and join...

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

I HATE going places (to meetings, gatherings) where I don't know anyone. Especially when the meeting is at someone's house. So the idea of going to someone's home whom I don't know for a meeting full of people I don't know based off of a generic newsletter that was sent is enough to send me into a full blown anxiety attack.

For you, it may be anxiety, but in general, I think meetings in people's homes is a bad idea. I don't know why exactly. But I only conduct alumni meetings (for APO) in neutral locations like a restaurant or on a campus with adequate space. (Or meetings are not too formal to have in a restaurant)

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

For you, it may be anxiety, but in general, I think meetings in people's homes is a bad idea. I don't know why exactly. But I only conduct alumni meetings (for APO) in neutral locations like a restaurant or on a campus with adequate space. (Or meetings are not too formal to have in a restaurant)

Meetings for my non-Greek fraternal group are mostly in public, though we decided to have two summer meetings at members' homes that have wonderful summer amenities. We have drawn many members from another group with similar aims but not limited by gender as we are so most people know each other or the facility we borrow from their other membership.

I'm big and bold so I'd go to the home of someone I've vetted because were both members of an organization but I can see how some people may not be comfortable with that and tuck that away for planning meetings. My sister is in a group that meets in public but select members who are closer have met in people's homes, which became drama when someone who wasn't invited found out, oooops.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Ah, I had Alpha Gam mindset in that our alumnae chapters are often tied to the support of a collegiate chapter, and so the two are intertwined. We also have paid our alumnae fees when joining as a collegian so anything in the future is optional.

I still stand by if you can't reach people they can't tell you why they aren't involved.

Originally Posted by Senusret I

For you, it may be anxiety, but in general, I think meetings in people's homes is a bad idea. I don't know why exactly. But I only conduct alumni meetings (for APO) in neutral locations like a restaurant or on a campus with adequate space. (Or meetings are not too formal to have in a restaurant)

I agree - I personally am not as focused when i meet at people's homes. Plus people are squeezed together on the couch, theres the "shoes on/shoes off" situation, never enough chairs, possibility of pets and children running around. Definitely enough to cause anxiety.