The DTR

christiangirl · #1 11-22-2009, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Alumiyum

I think I'm sticking to the new method of waiting, though I do recommend asking about whether you're exclusive or not after a couple of weeks to avoid any unpleasant misunderstandings.

So what is the difference? Between being exclusive with him and being his girlfriend? I think I've asked this before, but I still don't get it--if neither of you are dating other people.....

AlwaysSAI · #2 11-22-2009, 02:03 PM

I was thinking about this thread the other day and I realized I left one guy out.

The guy I dated for 3.5 years, when we were first seeing each other--into it a few weeks, I just let him know he was mine. I just said it one day & he didn't object.

@CG
The difference between exclusively seeing each other & being a girl/boyfriend is that with exclusivity there is a lower level of commitment, I think. And, it's easier to back out of. Being a boy/girlfriend comes with a higher level of commitment. More emotions involved....more of a "future" is talked about.

I think. But, I suck at relationships, so I could be completely wrong.

christiangirl · #3 11-23-2009, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

@CG
The difference between exclusively seeing each other & being a girl/boyfriend is that with exclusivity there is a lower level of commitment, I think. And, it's easier to back out of. Being a boy/girlfriend comes with a higher level of commitment. More emotions involved....more of a "future" is talked about.

I think. But, I suck at relationships, so I could be completely wrong.

So it's like a pre-boyfriend? Like the diff between an engagement ring and a promise ring...they both mean essentially the same, but one you can back out of more easily.

AGDee · #4 11-23-2009, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

So what is the difference? Between being exclusive with him and being his girlfriend? I think I've asked this before, but I still don't get it--if neither of you are dating other people.....

I don't see a difference between being exclusive and being a "girlfriend/boyfriend". In MY day, we called it "going with", the generation before me, it was "going steady". Either you're dating casually and open to seeing others or you're exclusive and if you see someone else it is deemed as "cheating". The next step, to me, would be engagement. Exclusive is a commitment with an expectation that you think your partner has potential for a really long term thing.. the "real deal". Why would you agree to be exclusive if he/she wasn't?