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Originally Posted by ZTAngel
Maybe it's a southern thing but I'd be shocked if I found out that a guy did not ask his fiance's father for his daughter's hand.
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Some of us feel like our hand figuratively and literally belongs to us.
[ETA Disclaimer: I'm VERY close to my father...and VERY close to my mother.]
I don't agree with the belief that a woman leaves her "father's house" and goes to her "husband's house." Many people do, even if they have less blatant ways of articulating it. I much more understand the couple going to both sets of parents and saying "hey, we're talking marriage...we want to include you in this process...although, we're getting married regardless of your opinion...and don't give us hell during this process or you'll lovingly get cussed out."
But, I don't slam those who think the man asking the father's "permission" is a necessary custom. I just don't consider it to be necessary for my life and circumstances. I think that many couples that discuss marriage already have an idea of how welcoming their familes are to the other person/idea of marriage. Some parents will be like "okay...we figured as much...duh...you're grown...welcome to the family...just propose and get married already."
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