Asking daddy's permission before proposing

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Maybe I'm too modern, but I would have been totally and completely offended had either of my husbands asked my father for permission. My father did not own me once I turned 18. I was my own person making my own decisions. My father should have NO SAY in who I choose to marry. The man controlled every aspect of my life as long as I lived in his home. As soon as I was out, no way, no how was he going to have any say in how I lived my life.

what??? it's not about ownership. the young man was asking permission to propose to our daughter, and promising to love her, and treat her well and with respect-things that most people promise in their wedding vows. it was totally up to her to accept or decline his proposal, with no explanation due to us at all.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

what??? it's not about ownership. the young man was asking permission to propose to our daughter, and promising to love her, and treat her well and with respect-things that most people promise in their wedding vows. it was totally up to her to accept or decline his proposal, with no explanation due to us at all.

I was referring to my own situation, not yours at all. People should do what is right for them. In my situation, it would have offended me. I didn't generalize that to anybody else. I am sorry that you took it that way.