Significant other's friends

[Xanthus]

Originally Posted by LucyKKG

Have you ever had an intense loathing for one of your significant other's friends? Oooh I do! Here's the deal:

Dan has a friend from high school with whom he has recently reconnected. I've met him a few times. (I won't say his name juuuust in case.) I hate being around him because he barely acknowledges my presence! I realize I'm "the girlfriend" and the dudes want to catch up and chat. However, he won't even include me in a simple conversation. I try to interact, make relative comments, and ask questions. I haven't seen him since June, luckily.

Anyway, Dan told me today that his friend was going to be moving out of his parents' house finally. (We have recently graduated from college, so we're both at our respective parents' houses. I think his friend has been out for a year or two.) I guess the friend wants Dan to move with him, and he is interested but can't afford the rent right now.

So the topic is off the table for a while. I was thinking about it later today, though. What if this a-hole was my dearly beloved's roommate? Augh! My boyfriend knows how I feel about this guy. I won't say anything about the living situation right now because it's not an imminent threat. What should I say if it DOES become more of a possibility?

I wouldn't put too much into it. I could see if he was starting to be a dick like his friend, but as long as he's still the same dude, I don't see what the problem is. Better yet, why don't you two move in together? That would eliminate this problem. Don't you think?

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

Better yet, why don't you two move in together? That would eliminate this problem. Don't you think?

I would love it if we could do that, but neither of us can afford it right now.

[Xanthus]

Originally Posted by LucyKKG

I would love it if we could do that, but neither of us can afford it right now.

I don't want to come of as nosey, but are you two working? If you are, you could split the rent.

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I don't want to come of as nosey, but are you two working? If you are, you could split the rent.

The short answer is no. We both just graduated. He's getting laid off at the end of the month, and I'm having trouble finding a job. So right now it's Casa de los Padres for me!

[Xanthus]

Originally Posted by LucyKKG

The short answer is no. We both just graduated. He's getting laid off at the end of the month, and I'm having trouble finding a job. So right now it's Casa de los Padres for me!

ok relax. I just asked a simple question. Look at the bright side. If he's going to be laid off in a month, then he won't be able to afford the rent. If he can't afford the rent, then that would put him back with his parents and away from the asshole friend. Right?

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

ok relax. I just asked a simple question. Look at the bright side. If he's going to be laid off in a month, then he won't be able to afford the rent. If he can't afford the rent, then that would put him back with his parents and away from the asshole friend. Right?

Yeah, as I mentioned before, it's not going to happen any time soon. Did I seem snarky?

[Xanthus]

Originally Posted by LucyKKG

Yeah, as I mentioned before, it's not going to happen any time soon. Did I seem snarky?

Not a big deal, but yeah, you did. Good luck, I hope everything works out.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by LucyKKG

Yeah, as I mentioned before, it's not going to happen any time soon. Did I seem snarky?

My snark detector did not go off from your post. I thought it was kind of cute and upbeat, honestly.