A good sorority = Hot Girls?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by caprice89

So ever since I've joined a sorority I've been paying attention to how people talk about them. I'm getting this feeling that the only sororities that people care about is the ones that have the most attractive girls. I'm starting to feel very self conscious because I've been reading so much stuff that says a good pledge class or house is a sexy one.

I know I shouldn't be worried about this but if I knew this before I probably wouldn't have done it.

Just because guys think this or that sorority has the hottest girls, doesn't mean that those are the girls they actually want to spend time talking with or have a relationship with. They are talking about who they want to screw. Period.

[APhiAnna]

This is the whole thing about perception vs. reality that I think a lot of people my age struggle with. So guys perceive ABC's pledge class to be not good because they aren't "hot" like XYZ. That's a perception, that's not a truth. The fact that they perceive your pledge class as "bad" or even "unattractive" does not automatically make it a truth.

I bet you there are plenty of attractive girls in your sorority. On top of that, even if there wasn't a single one (yet to see a chapter where that is the case) the things that make a sorority good are often far more difficult to discern by somebody who isn't in it: involvement, cliques, retention, programs, social events, philanthropy and money raised, sisterhood nights, etc. Not all sororities are as good as the others on those points at any campus (and it is often scattered about the tiers...there will be the top tier with awesome sisterhood and the top tier with terrible sisterhood, the bottom tier with awesome sisterhood and the bottom tier with terrible sisterhood, etc). THAT is what you should be focused on.

In short, are you really going to let a guy who maybe knows 3 or 4 sisters out of your entire sorority tell you how good or bad it is vs. YOU who knows all the sisters and the inner-workings of the sorority? Gossip is not that serious, you know the truth and that truth is the only reality in this situation, not somebody's perspective.

[Ghostwriter]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Just because guys think this or that sorority has the hottest girls, doesn't mean that those are the girls they actually want to spend time talking with or have a relationship with. They are talking about who they want to screw. Period.

How true!!^^

I wouldn't pay a bit of attention to the scuttlebutt going around about who is hot and who is not. That is always the way it is going to be. We guys are pretty much full of hot air and try to build ourselves up by calling out who is "hot" and who is not. It makes us feel less unimportant. It was that way in the 70's, 80's, 90's and 00's and will be that way forever.

Have fun, enjoy your sisters and be happy!