Selectivity And Apo

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Originally Posted by naraht

How would you possibly gauge "strong social rapport" in a objective manner?

Simply put, why would you join a fraternity of individuals you don't know and never took the time to get to know? In other words, using objective criteria, does the candidate(s) know and have a reasonably good social vibe with at least some the brothers? (in hindsight, perhaps using the word "strong" wasn't necessary). If not, being a brother isn't going to make the brothers like you.

Funny you brought this up, because I have a true story for you that illustrates its importance. I ran into this 40-something adult student at OSU who was a brother (joined about 2001-2002) via seeing his letters on a shirt. I introduced myself as a brother and we began chatting. As it turned out, this guy had did some time at a correctional facility (I don't remember what the crime was, except that it was a violent crime). Long story short, he heard about the Vikings and wanted me to "make him" a Viking because the brothers who initiated him wasn't too comfortable about his past. Needless to say, I declined his request for several reasons, and he would call me frequently wanting to chat, and I would give a few minutes to talk with him and he felt really really alienated and that the chapter essentially gave him the cold shoulder. Then he suddenly stopped calling and I lost touch with him.

It is instances like this that had there been a vetting process, this whole issue could have been avoided. I think the chapter did this guy (and themselves) a disservice by even initiating him.

I think that was one of the coldest acts of brotherhood I have ever seen. Real talk!