The Mom From Hell

[Titchou]

Oh gosh, we had this mother at one of our chapters! The daughter, very sweet but very intimidated by her mother, was a legacy and we pledged her. The mother, who lived 4 hours away, rented herself an apartment in the college town for the entire 4 years the daughter was in school. During the 2 years the daughter was supposed to live in the house, the mother wouldn't let her, had her live in the apartment with her and paid the room rent and board at the house too! Good thing the father made gobs of money. THey came to our Convention one year and the poor girl could not get more than 2 feet from her mother. They were leaving there and going to Europ efor 3 weeks - justmother and daughter. So sad....I wonder to this day what became of her....probably still tied to her mother...

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by Titchou

The mother, who lived 4 hours away, rented herself an apartment in the college town for the entire 4 years the daughter was in school. During the 2 years the daughter was supposed to live in the house, the mother wouldn't let her, had her live in the apartment with her and paid the room rent and board at the house too!

Wow. Some people really need a hobby.

If it was that bad during the college years, can you imagine the poor girl (and husband) when she gets married? Even worse, when there are grandchildren?

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by Titchou

The mother, who lived 4 hours away, rented herself an apartment in the college town for the entire 4 years the daughter was in school. During the 2 years the daughter was supposed to live in the house, the mother wouldn't let her, had her live in the apartment with her and paid the room rent and board at the house too!

Please, please, please tell me you made this up.

I cannot even wrap my mind around this.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

Please, please, please tell me you made this up.

I cannot even wrap my mind around this.

Wish I was....I even still remember her name and where she was from and what her husband did (because I wondered how he could afford for the mom not to work and to live in the college town)...it was in the South, of course!

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Wish I was....I even still remember her name and where she was from and what her husband did (because I wondered how he could afford for the mom not to work and to live in the college town)...it was in the South, of course!

And the question naturally follows... What kind of marriage did they have? I cannot imagine going off for four years to babysit my college-aged daughter and leaving my husband at home alone to finance our "venture".

I love my daughter and am willing to make sacrifices for her, but not at the expense of my marriage.

(Still trying to wrap mind around this...)

[CougarGrad]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Oh gosh, we had this mother at one of our chapters! The daughter, very sweet but very intimidated by her mother, was a legacy and we pledged her. The mother, who lived 4 hours away, rented herself an apartment in the college town for the entire 4 years the daughter was in school. During the 2 years the daughter was supposed to live in the house, the mother wouldn't let her, had her live in the apartment with her and paid the room rent and board at the house too!

I cannot begin to describe how utterly pathetic this is on the mother's part. I wish you were making this up, too, but I know you can't be. I've got a friend who's definitely a helicopter mom with her 21-year-old daughter. After kvetching to me repeatedly and sometimes asking for advice that she never once really listened to, I finally told my friend not to discuss her "parenting" methods with me, because not only do I not agree with her running her daughter's life, but I also don't want to hear about it. We have found other things to talk about, and our conversations cause me much less stress now.

I know that sounds horrible, but I've been polite, I've been nice, and I've been blunt to the point of borderline rudeness when she repeatedly griped or asked about the same things, and she continues to behave the same way. The daughter is 21, and her life is in her hands- she can decide to stand up and run it herself, or to continue to allow her mother to take everything over.

I really hope ellebud's friend gets her head out of her butt, but if she doesn't, maybe the daughter will get her head out of the mother's butt. (I know, what a visual, but y'all get the idea.)