No place for average PNMs?

[angels&angles]

It's also worth noting -- it may have been said again, but worth repeating -- SOMETIMES shy can look like bored/rude. I've had PNMs drive me up the wall, because they're not giving me ANY feedback whatsoever. I talk about philanthropy, they nod. I talk about social, they nod. I talk about academics, they nod. I ask about them, they give one word answers.

Alot of times, I could tell the difference between the bored/rude ones and the really shy ones... but someone giving me that little to go on just isn't attractive. I usually wouldn't advocate dropping someone like that unless we loved everyone else in the round... but sometimes it comes down to that.

PNMs -- even if you're shy, at least try and seem interested and engaged! That could be even the small tip of the balance to get you invited back.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by angels&angles

It's also worth noting -- it may have been said again, but worth repeating -- SOMETIMES shy can look like bored/rude. I've had PNMs drive me up the wall, because they're not giving me ANY feedback whatsoever. I talk about philanthropy, they nod. I talk about social, they nod. I talk about academics, they nod. I ask about them, they give one word answers.

Alot of times, I could tell the difference between the bored/rude ones and the really shy ones... but someone giving me that little to go on just isn't attractive. I usually wouldn't advocate dropping someone like that unless we loved everyone else in the round... but sometimes it comes down to that.

YES.

Active sisters don't have time to try and discern who is shy and who is just rude. And some of them are new to rushing PNMs and just can't tell. When you have maybe ONE party to determine interest levels in PNMs, the most obvious indicator of interest is whether a PNM is actually TALKING to the members.