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Well, you should try to befriend guys in houses, but because you are similar in personality and not because you need a connection to a house later on. That is going to seem really obvious to even the most clueless fraternity guys. So find the guys you get along with and rush their fraternity rather than picking what fraternity you want the most and trying to get along with their members (subtle difference, but I hope that's clear enough).
First of all, bonding with them drunk isn't even a bad thing, it might honestly be easiest that way ("Oh yeah, I met this hilarious guy last night at our house..."). If not, well...classes, intramural teams, sorority events, football games, any sports game for that matter...greeks are just normal people, they do the same stuff you do.
Honestly if I can give you one piece of advice, from the tone of your posts you seem to have put fraternity members on a pedestal. That is going to make you come off as whatever defense mechanism you put on when intimidated (fake, shy, awkward, douchey, it's different for everybody) and will not do you any favors. So that's why I'm saying pick what you love doing on campus and connect with the greeks you meet in a comfortable atmosphere. Don't set your heart on one chapter that is the most popular or whatever...be honest with where you'd really fit.
My dad always told me the best way to meet a (boyfriend/job connection/sorority member, etc) is to meet people in general. Sounds like you should be doing that. Who knows when even that one random GDI in your class tells his fraternity roommate, "Oh yeah I invited this fun guy to play beer pong before we go out on the row." So stop worrying about people and just go out and do it! Seriously, with 90% of the people in this world if you treat them like a normal person (not condescending and not sucking up either) they will be happy to give you a chance. I feel like people like to make excuses saying this isn't so, but it is.
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