How expensive are newborns?

[Xanthus]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

And the way the question is asked...it sounds so.....callous??

"I hear <fill in the blanks> are expensive... Blah Blah Blah"

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Going back to that last thread...just think if you wore a condom and not listened to her, you wouldn't be reading these posts.

Hopefully that'll learn ya!

Dude grow up. I already put that behind me. I'm moving on now. If you're only going to make negative comments, why make them?

Originally Posted by libelle

You have received some great advice re 2nd job, coupons, daycare, etc. Save as much as you can now so that you can be around to help with the newborn.

Yeah, I have. Thanks guys for your thoughts on this. This is a lot for me to take in. No one is hiring except for fast food places, so I had to fill out an app. at those places for the time being. Taco Bell called me back the same day. I have an interview with them on Tuesday. I'm in sales, so I actually have a nice job, but I know my salary is not going to cut it. After reading this and from what I've been told, it's a must that I get a second job. It will only be part time, but any extra income will help.

Kevin, thanks man. Everything you've mentioned except for the custody part was very helpful. I mentioned the custody part, because that's already a given. The court wouldn't see her as an unfit mother, so I wouldn't even waste time looking into that. So, it's plain and simple, I'll be paying child support.

Thanks again guys.

edit: also, she is not my significant other.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

Kevin, thanks man. Everything you've mentioned except for the custody part was very helpful. I mentioned the custody part, because that's already a given. The court wouldn't see her as an unfit mother, so I wouldn't even waste time looking into that. So, it's plain and simple, I'll be paying child support.

It varies from state to state of course, but the idea that mom automatically gets custody is completely false (at least here).

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

edit: also, she is not my significant other.

Another child raised in a fatherless home.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

Dude grow up. I already put that behind me. I'm moving on now. If you're only going to make negative comments, why make them?


edit: also, she is not my significant other.

1. I am grown. I am not the one going around making babies because I failed to use a condom because I believed that the stranger I slept with was being responsible for birth control.

2. I am not compounding the issue by asking a board of strangers if I should get a 2nd job.
i mean COME ON!!!! You are the one that ran a whole thread about how you impregnanted her in the first place and how you really aren't certain that you want to be with her...so what did you expect? If the last thread was about how you got your wife preganant or your longtime girlfriend pregnant and how you were jubilant over it, then yes, a congrats is in order, intead this is already going to "how am I going to take care of a baby in a loveless relationship" rant so you get what you get!

YOU grow up and deal with it.

3. Maybe you forgot, but if you decide to post personal information on the internet it pretty much equals putting a 'kick me' sign on your back.

You made your bed (in a manner of speaking) you have to sleep in it so take the good along with the bad, and think about that next time you decide to put your personal life out in public. If you are adult enough to make one then as others have already said, talk it over with real live flesh and blood people closest to you and figure this out and stop expecing black and white letters to do the job for you, unless all you are really looking for is attention.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

3. Maybe you forgot, but if you decide to post personal information on the internet it pretty much equals putting a 'kick me' sign on your back.

this.

its the same principle that applies when a newbie comes asking for advice with mad typos and without reading threads (or national websites) that could've easily answered their question. not everyone is going to be your cheerleader, and no one is certainly obligated to hide the fact that they aren't.

your best bet is to stop responding to posts, take the advice u got here, and seek out ppl IRL. you really don't have time to fight with internet screen names right now!

and if u post pics of the newborn, and someone not in the know makes the mistake of saying congrats to your wife/gf/s.o., and you have to correct them, it might start all over again...