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I did an LDR my senior year of college and in my first year of graduate school. I would not do it again, even though the relationship survived for a few years after we were in the same city.
It worked well for me at the time. It really allowed me to really focus on my work during those two crucial years. Also, the culture at my college regarding relationships was more along the "pretend marriage" route (that ironically DO NOT end in marriage), and I knew that wasn't for me. In fact, I was hanging out with one of my best girlfriends from college, who was in one of those relationships from sophmore year onwards, and she clearly expressed regrets about letting her relationship--which she knew was going nowhere--take over her social and academic life because "everyone else was doing it." I know that's not healthy, and not everyone does it, but that was my college for you.
I wouldn't do it again because I know a lot more about myself than I did 7 years ago, and how I'm not really a phone person. Finally, I'm at the point in my life where I want to settle down and being in an LDR is not conducive to settling down without major sacrifices on one or another person's part.
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