Do sororities do background checks?

[tcsparky]

In Mecklenburg County, North Carolina, the Sheriff's department posts all arrests, the mug shot and charges on the public website for 2 years. You (the public) must go to the county clerk in person to find out the results of the trial (conviction, aquittal), but the arrest stays public for two years.

I know you're not in Mecklenburg County, but we can't be the only county in the nation to have this type of website.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by tcsparky

I know you're not in Mecklenburg County, but we can't be the only county in the nation to have this type of website.

As someone who does HR type work with usually not-so-upstanding citizens (and not-citizens) - I love that website.


And YAY for Sockpuppety Keyboard Courage.

[DubaiSis]

I love the response "calling you out." When I read the OP I thought there but by the grace of god. Of course, the fake ID I had didn't end up getting me in trouble, but I DID have one. And anyone here saying they never broke the law before joining a sorority, I don't buy it. Never had a beer once? Never took one hit off a joint? I know of a girl in high school who got arrested for public exposure (peeing in public while drunk... the cop allowed her to pick public exposure or underage drinking) and she spent 4 productive years in a sorority. I will bet you a dollar it never came up and wouldn't have mattered to the sorority anyway.

They won't look, there's no reason to mention it, and if it does come up and they do cut you because of it, c'est la vie. I still bet it wouldn't affect your options at EVERY house on campus even if somebody found out.

[AlphaFrog]

Here's the thing:

If you look back, no one really "called her out" on the arrest. People called her out on not knowing which council she was talking about, "not bragging about" her 3.3, and her general attitude toward people who were answering her question. And I think the "Which one of the 4" in response to Sen saying 3 of 4 do background checks is what really topped the cake (even though we later found out she wasn't talking NPHC - it was like she was asking us to help her work the system).

I did stupid things and got caught before I joined a sorority, too. But, that's not what I was commenting on.

[DubaiSis]

I guess I'm willing to throw her a bone because the sorority system is so confusing to outsiders. And the acronyms don't help. Seriously, would you know that NPC and NPHC (when they stand for the same thing) are in fact not the same? And saying "4 out of 5" invites the follow-up question. Yes, I understand why we who understand the system think that's funny, but again, as an outsider, she possibly thinks the acceptance policies, standards, etc. are fixed when we all know they are extremely fluid. All we can say is there are minimum standards, of which grades are one, but there is no fixed list of standards that gets someone in or out, and a stupid arrest would fall into a grey area that may completely offend one sorority and not even be a blip to another.

I'm just saying give her a break. Ignorance is something we go to college to overcome.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I'm just saying give her a break. Ignorance is something we go to college to overcome.

The ignorance thing I can agree with, but the "break" stopped here:

Originally Posted by 50ccerfan

Cool b/c now I realize I don't want to be a part of a community full of assholes anyway...loser.

[KSUViolet06]

I think on some level, PNM posters get upset when we don't tell them what they want to hear.

In good conscience, I can't tell a PNM that NO CHAPTER is going to care about her arrest.

They very well might.

I'm sorry if being honest = being mean, but I am certainly not going to lie and say that it's no big deal. It just might be.

I think it's swell that some folks have been arrested and still managed to secure certain jobs. That's not going to happen for everyone.

[DubaiSis]

I'll give you that. But again, I've spouted off things when I was mad... unfortunately I can't blame all of mine on the ignorance of youth. And also unfortunately there's no way to dig yourself out of that online. Hopefully she kept herself anonymous enough that if she decides to go through recruitment later on this won't bite her in the arse.

Now I promise to say no more. Good night!

[KSigkid]

This may be slightly off-topic, but here goes...

I don't understand why a regular poster would want to create an alias to express their opinion. Are people really that concerned about what other posters think of them? I wouldn't know 99% of you if I bumped into you on the street, and I imagine it's that way for the rest of the board.

I mean, I've seen subsets of this feeling in other areas of the board. Poster A criticizes Poster B, and Poster B says something along the lines of "OMG I can't believe you criticized me, I thought we got along!" Or there are people who trumpet their GC reputations. People tend to get way too attached to other user names on the board, or to their own GC persona.

Do you really care that much about how other people on the board feel about you? Is your GC reputation really that big of a deal?

To CallingYouOut - I really don't get your using an alias in this situation. The only thing you posted that might have necessitated an alias was the comment about your husband, and honestly, your story would have worked the same if you had said "a friend of mine" or "someone I know" instead.

Sorry, I guess I just don't get it. If you're going to post something that you don't want attached to your regular user name, maybe you just shouldn't post it.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I guess I'm willing to throw her a bone because the sorority system is so confusing to outsiders.

The NPHC vs. NPC wasn't the real issue. The issue is that she missed context clues that she could have grasped before she came to GC.

She knew there were over a dozen sororities on her campus, yet she followed up on a "3 of the 4 sororities" answer from Senusret. Anyone with a grain of brain would say "hmmm...maybe I have the wrong group because I know there are more than 3 or 4 sororities of this kind on my campus ALONE."

But, maybe that's just me expecting crazy co-eds to have some level of critical thinking skills.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Never had a beer once? Never took one hit off a joint?

No, thanks for asking.