Has the tradition of Legacies outgrown its usefulness?

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I know I've said this before, but I believe on the whole the men believe they make the fraternity, and the women believe the sorority makes them. You see it on here...the guys have joined a crap fraternity, and they say "what can I do to fix it?" The girls have joined a crap sorority, and they say "how can I get out of it?" Again, this is a very sweeping generalization.

Actually that is a very simple and intelligent way to put it. I agree with you completely. I think guys tend to join the house where their personality fits the best, regardless of status, and then work their asses off to raise their status but keep the "vibe" the same.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

Actually that is a very simple and intelligent way to put it. I agree with you completely. I think guys tend to join the house where their personality fits the best, regardless of status, and then work their asses off to raise their status but keep the "vibe" the same.

I also find that while men tend to join where their personalities fit, women tend to want to join the chapter that is most like who they WANT to be (especially with freshmen), rather than where their personalities fit.

Another huge generalization, I know. Flame me if I'm WAY off.

[cbm]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I also find that while men tend to join where their personalities fit, women tend to want to join the chapter that is most like who they WANT to be (especially with freshmen), rather than where their personalities fit.

Another huge generalization, I know. Flame me if I'm WAY off.

No flames here, that's exactly what I think about it, too...I just couldn't find a way to word it. Most girls leave open house day set on the prettiest/well dressed/socially connected/popular sororities and keep set on them until they are cut or something happens to make them dislike the house. That's one reason why it's really difficult for struggling houses to dig themselves out of their struggle. All the girls want the more popular houses, and those houses have their choice of girls to choose from.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I also find that while men tend to join where their personalities fit, women tend to want to join the chapter that is most like who they WANT to be (especially with freshmen), rather than where their personalities fit.

My rho gammas actually told us when I went through recruitment to "pick the house with the women who are who you want to be when you grow up".

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by AOEforme

My rho gammas actually told us when I went through recruitment to "pick the house with the women who are who you want to be when you grow up".

See and I don't think that's something that Rho Gams should tell girls.

Because who you want to be when you grow up doesn't always fit best with the type of people you like to be around and what your personality is.

Nevermind the whole "pick the house" statement because recruitment doesn't typically involve picking so much as ranking them.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

See and I don't think that's something that Rho Gams should tell girls.

Because who you want to be when you grow up doesn't always fit best with the type of people you like to be around and what your personality is.

Nevermind the whole "pick the house" statement because recruitment doesn't typically involve picking so much as ranking them.

No, totally. And while it was well-meaning, most girls weren't like "Hey, this house is classy and mature. They are all professional, well-put together women who are socially gracefully and kind. "

It was more like "Hey- these are the hot, pretty partiers who date the best fraternity men. I want to be them."

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by AOEforme

No, totally. And while it was well-meaning, most girls weren't like "Hey, this house is classy and mature. They are all professional, well-put together women who are socially gracefully and kind. "

It was more like "Hey- these are the hot, pretty partiers who date the best fraternity men. I want to be them."

So true. And that's why legacies are such a tricky issue. I really thought I had a well-reasoned argument on this, and as I go through the recruitment process right now with my chapter, I am beginning to rethink it. It's just so tricky.