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I meant members, not rushees. I have two friends that are alums who are very actively involved with their chapters, and they told me that grades & financial are the two main reasons that they see girls drop out.
No, I did not want her to choose one based on price rather than how she felt. I wanted her to find a good fit that was affordable for us. There is a difference. If we were merely shopping for price, I would have been seeking out the lowest priced one. That is absoultely not true. I doubt the old row houses that she took off of her list would have kept her in the end anyway, as they pretty much took their own legacies first. My daughter is intelligent enough to know that if she got in over her head financially, that she would look back and regret that. I think that for you to call what I did unfair is really a good indicator of your total lack of grasp of the situation. You apparently would rather see a really wonderful girl sit off to the side and always and forever wonder what sorority life would have been like, than to see her in a place where she is very happy. Because that is exactly what would happen if she pledged one and we got a bill for $6K per semester. She would have had to withdraw, and I wanted to spare her that embarrassment. This way, she is happy, we are happy, and the sorority is very happy to have her. Why on earth would you want to deprive someone of that experience, just because they cannot afford the most expensive one? That makes zero sense to me. BTW, the only person that matters in this issue is my daughter, and she recognizes the current economic climate, and has never once acted like I was being unfair to her. Besides that, "Life is not always fair." It's a sad fact, but we all have to deal with it at some point or another. Learning to compromise is an essential life skill and I am most proud of my daughter for going through this excercise with grace and dignity.
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