costs of sororities at university of alabama

[33girl]

I think the "upper middle class" thing is what stuck in people's craws. You didn't need to throw your status (or what you perceive to be your status) in there - it's tacky.

The fact of the matter is - your daughter is looking for a lifetime home, not a sweater. You can't comparison shop in a bloodless sort of fashion. If the highest figure you have seen anywhere is $6000+, I would go with that and if you can't afford it, your daughter either needs to get a job or drop out of rush.

If this is the first time pamphlets were passed out at Bama, I would wager some of the groups simply forgot them - it's easy to forget your head in rush craziness. To assume that it's a don't ask don't tell or that they don't want members who aren't rich is being just as rude to those groups as you are accusing people of being to you.