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Originally posted by bgsugirlie
The only problem is that she has been with a lot of people, and she has a slightly slutty reputation.
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I have to ask, are you certain about this? In reality, she may
not have been with a lot of people, it could only be hurtful hearsay and so I think it is wise to
question what people tell you. Why not give her the benefit of the doubt? Why do people say that she has "been with" a lot of people? Were they physically there when "it" allegedly happened?
And...if she is someone who is promiscuous, ask yourself why?
Maybe she has a past that you would never wish on anyone?Maybe she was sexually abused as a child?
People seem to think that if a woman is promiscuous, it's because she's sexually insatiable - - that's not the case, promiscuity stems from low self-esteem, a history of abuse, poor feelings of self worth, etc.
I know that it is a lot to ask a sorority to take on someone with a "lot of baggage", but I think it is wise to ask and find out a bit more about a person instead of just writing someone off as "slutty". People are complex, they're not good/bad, slutty/not slutty, know what I mean?
By the way, I was watching Oprah last night and it was all about "The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls"
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/...20020424.jhtml
One thing that they did mention is the way that
spreading gossip is one way that females enact aggression and devastation upon each other.
If this girl has low self-esteem, it sounds to me, like she would benefit the most from membership in a sorority, and benefit from having friendship, support and love of sisters around her.
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