Serious Preference Help Needed

[court4short]

From my "all-knowing-PNM" point of view () that sounds really great. As a PNM, I would love to experience something like that.

Also .. I have a question. I've heard the term "hot-boxing" used on here before, but I'm still unclear as to what that is?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by court4short

Also .. I have a question. I've heard the term "hot-boxing" used on here before, but I'm still unclear as to what that is?

Hotboxing = too many sisters paired with one PNM during recruitment with the intent of making her feel pressured/uncomfortable. Example: PNMs should not be in house rooms with doors shut and like 3 members talking to them telling them to "Pleaaaseee rank Alpha first!"

I think the rule my school followed was no more than 2 sisters to one PNM. During House Tours and Pref, when PNMs were touring the rooms, doors had to be left open at all times. PNMs were NOT to be in rooms with sisters with doors shut.

I'm pretty sure one on one convos can also be considered hotboxing if a PNM is alone in a room and being pressured.

ETA: The official Panhellenic definition:

Members may not participate in “Hot Boxing” during recruitment events. “Hot Boxing” is when there are 2 or more active members engaging in conversation with only 1 potential new member. Additionally, one-on-one conversation between an active member and potential new member cannot occur when there is no one else in the room.

[33girl]

If this isn't giving too much away, do you have a specific AGD ceremony you must use? Also your problem might be in the delivery. If your president is supposed to read something but she sounds like Ben Stein in Ferris Bueller, consider having another sister read her part.

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If this isn't giving too much away, do you have a specific AGD ceremony you must use? Also your problem might be in the delivery. If your president is supposed to read something but she sounds like Ben Stein in Ferris Bueller, consider having another sister read her part.

Anyone...anyone...

To the OP - please be sure and check the Panhellenic rules as on some campuses you're not allowed to give (or I think maybe even make and read) letters to PNMs.

I don't know what your pref ceremony is like, but do you have people give testimonials or tell stories about their time in AGD? That might help make it more personal.

[HWookie]

Thanks so much for all the suggestions about reading the letters and then putting them in gift bags on Bid Day, etc. That's exactly the kind of personalization I was looking for.

Also, because some people asked, we do not have a specific preference ceremony we have to follow. Usually we find stuff on our organization website and look at past preferences and come up with one unique to that year. And we do include personal testimonies. I don't think our pref is bad, I just think it needs to be more special for PNMs, and having our members say something nice about them in front of everyone sounds like a really great way to help with that.