Daughter Going Through Rush at UT Knoxville

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Fleur de Lis

There are plenty of Nashville girls at UT, so have her contact active sorority women she knows who go to UT. This may give her some tips on UT recruitment and hopefully people in the houses to pull for her!

actually, contacting them now is not the thing to do. i would imagine that the sororities are in their "non-contact" phase, and contacting them might result in the sorority incurring a recruitment infraction and dire consequences for your daughter.

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also very important: Yes, she is a Chi O legacy, but keep in mind that she is probably not the ONLY one in recruitment. So do not assume that she has an automatic bid to Chi O. That's not always the case at larger schools. Legacies can and do get released.

A thing to consider... (and I'm not terribly sure if sororities do the same things that fraternities do)..

Your legacy does not matter one single bit because you are not a legacy of that chapter. I may be speaking out of turn and some other lady can correct me, but priority (in fraternity rush) is certainly given to girls from said chapter, rather than the national sorority.

Again, I could be wrong.

[irishpipes]

EW - it's not the same for sororities.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Thanks Cosmo Kramer. LOL

Exactly what I was thinking

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

A thing to consider... (and I'm not terribly sure if sororities do the same things that fraternities do)..

Your legacy does not matter one single bit because you are not a legacy of that chapter. I may be speaking out of turn and some other lady can correct me, but priority (in fraternity rush) is certainly given to girls from said chapter, rather than the national sorority.

Again, I could be wrong.

It's not the same with sorority recruitment AT ALL. Not even a CHAPTER legacy is guaranteed a spot.

You can look back through some of the SEC school recruitment threads and see that. There are plenty of moms from Bama/UGA/etc. who were lamenting about their daughter being cut from not only mom's sorority, but mom's chapter. Some of the girls even had bio sisters who were actives.

So it definitely doesn't guarantee you anything, especially when some chapters have multiple chapter legacies in recruitment. They can't take all of them--and they don't. It's tough being a girl, lol.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

A thing to consider... (and I'm not terribly sure if sororities do the same things that fraternities do)..

Your legacy does not matter one single bit because you are not a legacy of that chapter. I may be speaking out of turn and some other lady can correct me, but priority (in fraternity rush) is certainly given to girls from said chapter, rather than the national sorority.

Again, I could be wrong.

Every NPC has a different policy, and I imagine each chapter can tailor it to their needs (i.e. if there are so many legacies to a competitive chapter can't reasonably invite them). There are so many factors that could influence a decision:
-How active the alumna is
-Type of relationship (i.e. in house sister vs step sister)
-How many relatives in the sorority the legacy has
and of course...
-The legacy's own merits

It's all very subjective, but as a general rule, legacies are [supposed to be] afforded "careful consideration".

[Morton]

Thanks to all for your words of wisdom and advice. She does have friends that are greek at UT, but none of which are Chi O's. I want her to have a great sisterhood and/or experience regardless of the sorority. Of course, I'd love for her to be my sister, but I would rather she be with a group that is the right fit for her.

I especially liked the advice about letting her go. Geez... it sure is hard:-)

Thanks again to everyone.

[ZetaBeta]

Good luck to your daughter! I was in the same situation last year. This year my daughter will be on the "other side" of rush at UTK. We had a long talk yesterday about how it had all transpired. Like your daughter, mine was a legacy. However, she cut it after the first round. She didn't want to lead them on....I see now that was the best option. Can't say it didn't hurt at the time, but it was her life and her rush. UT has 13 wonderful sororties. Your daughter will find the one that fits. My daughter has been extremely pleased with her choice. But, she did say that she would have been happy at any of the three she attended for pref. Good luck, be supportive and most importantly, listen. Don't give opinions, just be there when she needs to vent. It's a stressful week, but well worth it!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by ZetaBeta

Can't say it didn't hurt at the time, but it was her life and her rush.

YES.

If more parents understood this, the world would be a happy place.

There would also be happier moms and daughters at the end of recruitment.

And fewer heli-moms on GC.

What was the best fit for you (however many years ago), MAY NOT be the best fit for your daughter (who is many years younger than you and a completely different person).

You should write a book.

[Morton]

Thanks Zeta Beta. Glad to know your daughter is happy! I'll let you know how it goes in three weeks:-)

[PhiMuTN]

Keep in mind that her numbers are good, but personality is important too. Make sure she really puts herself out there and shows each sorority who she really is. That will guide her to a sorority where she fits in the best!

[tennesseemom]

Tennessee recruitement is very competitive, but very organized with their rush. Make sure your daughter has a rec from every house, because many will cut the first night if they don't have a rec! This year there are over 1000 rushee's; which is higher than last year. there are several strong chapters- and I am sure your daughter can find a home. As some previous posters have said- legacies dont always guarentee a bid- Chi O for instance has so many legacys from the state of tennessee it would be impossible to give every legacy a bid! Good luck..keep us posted!

[formerlurker]

What Tennesseemom said is 100% correct. Tennessee recruitment is very competitive. Many chapters- including Chi O- have more legacies than spots, so some legacies will be cut. Your daughter has good numbers (but so will many, many others) but if she has an open mind and maximizes her options she should have a happy result. The girls who set their sights on the 3 or 4 most desired chapters are the ones who are often disappointed and drop out. Tell her to ignore the talk among the rushees and follow her own instincts- all chapters at UT are strong and all have very large and active and happy memberships- good luck to your daughter! Keep us posted!

[tennesseemom]

any news from the first day at UT knoxville's rush? Fill us in- we're dying to know the favorites!

[volmom]

Actually, first round "Go Greek" begins Sunday. I understand there is a lot of excitement in the air.

I also hear that numbers are down this year.