Confused- Junior rushing

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by ilovefashion

at retreat, the girls (which they weren't suppose to do) told us how the rush process works and how you can manipulate it to get the girls you want. THEN a girl (who didnt know i wanted to drop) TOLD me that they did some things (which i dont want to include) to get me number one on their list.

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I don't think new members are the authority to be asking, because most nms are new to the process themselves.

There are a ton of people on here who are super knowledgeable about bid matching, but here's a general idea of how it goes:

If you attend a pref party, you ARE on their bid list. Everyone is. It's a matter of WHERE you are on their list.

If Second Choice Sorority put you as their #1 and First Choice Sorority put you farther down on their list, if First Choice already matches quota before they get to your name on the list, you go with Second Choice since you were so high up on their list and you listed them on your bid card.

Second Choice didn't do anything sneaky to get you. They can't move people's names around. You were at the top of their list because they wanted you.

Originally Posted by Blue Skies

As others have stated, your second-choice house did not do anything to prevent your first-choice house from bidding you, had the sisters so desired.

Just to beat a dead horse, being #1 on a chapter's bid list does not affect the bid matching process as to other chapters. You did not get a bid to your first choice for the sole, simple reason that you were not high enough on their bid list. While I know this is harsh, I hate when PNMs hold onto false hope that they "should have been" placed elsewhere. Additionally, it makes you sound like a fool to anyone who is familiar with bid matching.

Simply put, if you can handle rejection go through recruitment again. If getting a bid to your “bottom 4” or no bid at all is going to make you bitter or depressed, don’t go through recruitment again.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I don't think new members are the authority to be asking, because most nms are new to the process themselves.

There are a ton of people on here who are super knowledgeable about bid matching, but here's a general idea of how it goes:

If you attend a pref party, you ARE on their bid list. Everyone is. It's a matter of WHERE you are on their list.

If Second Choice Sorority put you as their #1 and First Choice Sorority put you farther down on their list, if First Choice already matches quota before they get to your name on the list, you go with Second Choice since you were so high up on their list and you listed them on your bid card.

Second Choice didn't do anything sneaky to get you. They can't move people's names around. You were at the top of their list because they wanted you.

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Originally Posted by violetpretty

You really can't know for sure if you were "supposed" to be be at your first choice. First, most actives don't truly understand how bid matching works. You only get your second choice if your first choice fills quota before they get to your name on the list AND if you are high enough on your second choice.

Second, depending on the methods that a chapter uses for membership selection, the actives may not even know the exact position of each PNM on the bid list though they still participate in membership selection. So in many cases, an active that WAS at membership selection may not even know if you were "supposed" to be there.

My guess is that there were actives in the chapter who did genuinely like you so they thought you should be higher on the list, but membership selection isn't the decision of one person. The chapter decides. And it's not necessarily that certain people didn't like you, just that they liked other people more. It doesn't really matter anyway and you'll never know for sure.

But, like others have said, you're doing yourself a disservice by limiting yourself to only 3 of 7 chapters. Granted, I don't know the dynamics of your campus, I don't know you, and I don't know which chapters you think are the best fit for you. Most GCers are quick to assume that when a PNM says she only wants X of Y chapters, she is only considering ones that are "popular" and mentally eliminating "low tier" chapters. I can say that out of 14 chapters at my alma mater, I think only 4 other chapters than the one I joined would have been a good fit for me, but those chapters felt the same way about me too.

So, based on the information you've given us, your chances don't look so good, but it's up to you to decide which is worse: rejection or never knowing what could have been.

Originally Posted by lyrelyre

Just to beat a dead horse, being #1 on a chapter's bid list does not affect the bid matching process as to other chapters. You did not get a bid to your first choice for the sole, simple reason that you were not high enough on their bid list. While I know this is harsh, I hate when PNMs hold onto false hope that they "should have been" placed elsewhere. Additionally, it makes you sound like a fool to anyone who is familiar with bid matching.

Simply put, if you can handle rejection go through recruitment again. If getting a bid to your “bottom 4” or no bid at all is going to make you bitter or depressed, don’t go through recruitment again.

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