Legacy with active sister, rushing in the fall

[FSUZeta]

nothing is a done deal, but i have to say to our op that she might have good reason to be concerned. while i have not been present at the membership selection and i am basing my opinion on conjecture, i have seen what appeared to be girls being released due to their legacy status to a strong chapter, only to then be dropped by the legacy house ,thus released from recruitment. it happens.

but how does one play the game? that i can't say. you could not list your legacy status on your recruitment enrollment form, ask your recommendation writers to not list it when they write a rec. to a non-legacy chapter, and not mention your status when conversing with members. if questioned by members,i would not lie-i would probably say something to the effect that my sister is a member of xyz sorority and she and you agree that you have to make your own mind up and find the place that suits you the best.

as others have said, nothing in life is a guarantee. put your best foot forward, be yourself and keep your options open. best wishes to you.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

nothing is a done deal, but i have to say to our op that she might have good reason to be concerned. while i have not been present at the membership selection and i am basing my opinion on conjecture, i have seen what appeared to be girls being released due to their legacy status to a strong chapter, only to then be dropped by the legacy house thus released from recruitment. it happens.

What she said. I've seen it happen a lot in the South. Keep your options open, don't blow off any chapter.

[33girl]

Agree with the last 2 posts - also, it may happen that you find yourself loving your sister's sorority anyway. Don't try to talk yourself out of it just for the sake of wanting to be on your own apart from your sister.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Agree with the last 2 posts - also, it may happen that you find yourself loving your sister's sorority anyway. Don't try to talk yourself out of it just for the sake of wanting to be on your own apart from your sister.

I completely agree, 33girl. I went to rush swearing that I was going to be a Kappa Delta! In the end, my sister and I are very similar and very close (we're less than a year apart in age) so AOII fit me like a glove! Although Kappa Delta has a great chapter, I'm so glad I'm an AOII. Don't feel like choosing to join the same organization as your sister means that you guys don't have separate identities. It's okay to choose the same path as your sister...


As for the legacy issue, I think having an in house sister makes it much less likely that a PNM would be released from that house, but it did happen in my chapter resulting in one of my pledge sister's depledging. That was a horrible time in my chapter.

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

but how does one play the game? that i can't say. you could not list your legacy status on your recruitment enrollment form, ask your recommendation writers to not list it when they write a rec. to a non-legacy chapter, and not mention your status when conversing with members. if questioned by members,i would not lie-i would probably say something to the effect that my sister is a member of xyz sorority and she and you agree that you have to make your own mind up and find the place that suits you the best.

I agree with this advice. There's no reason for non-legacy chapters to be informed about your status unless members of those chapters ask you about it directly (i.e. "Aren't you Susie ABC's sister?") If they already know, or find out anyway, that is beyond your control.

The best possible response to questions is that you are keeping an open mind, which you should be doing anyway. As others have stated, there are no guarantees with regard to bidding.

Good luck to you! Have fun going through recruitment and stay positive.