not just a bad reputation..no respect!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by JohnnyCash

This may be the root of the problem. Once your chapter starts "getting its shit together," then things will get better.

But if you belong to one of those chapters full of girls that KNOW they're not top tier and don't care about it, then there may not be much you can do.

If you're the only one who cares about not having a good reputation and the rest of your sisters are fine with who they are/their reputation on campus, then you're pretty much s.o.l.

Johnny Cash, you are the man. This is it exactly.

Like I said - you've been a member for 2.5 seconds and no one is going to cotton to you saying that you need to fix your rep, even if they agree with you. Just like in any group or relationship, you need to stand back and listen and learn a bit before offering up all your opinions.

There are chapter where the sisters really don't like each other at all, and then there are others where they "fight as hard as they love and love as hard as they fight." Again, you need to stand back and listen and learn a bit where this is concerned.

[hairbrush390]

johnnycash- i think you are right. a lot of the newer girls are very motivated to change, but the older girls are the ones who are at the root of the problem (NOT to throw anyone under the bus, but its pretty much understood that it is this way)
33girl- i think you are right also. i dont want to step in RIGHT NOW and start changing things...ive been in situations where ive been the senior and a new person comes in and wants to revamp...it doesnt ever work well. i have been observing things, and i have learned from some of the older girls that a lot of our internal troubles started a few years ago.

i am really just looking for advice for the future..i hope to hold some type of position in the sorority in a couple of years and i would really just like to get us back on the right track. as i said, the newer girls recognize our rep and want to change it but we cant do too much right now. but i dont want to hit the bottom before we can start working our way back up!