I went through formal recruitment as a Tri Delta legacy. I was bound and determined I was going Tri Delta. It came time for Preference party invitations to come out, and because I thought AOTT hated me I dropped them attending the parties for Phi Mu and Tri Delt. I cried so hard at the Tri Delt party, because it was so emotional. I suicided on my bid card Tri Delt. The next day when bids came out I received what they call a snap bid for AOTT. I wanted to run out on bid day to someone so I decided to take my bid and then see if things got better. When my new sisters were finally comfortable in their own skin with their horrible year of recruitment behind them all the fun began. I wouldn't trade them for Tri Delta anyday now. I think though I had to want Tri Delta so bad to appreciate what I have now.