Could some BGLO ladies please explain how the NPHC sorority rush process happens?

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by mccoyred

If someone is attending ALL of the events, then her interest is known, ne c'est pas?

That's the idea I was leaning towards. Just to give you all a better understanding of where I'm coming from, I'll give a few deets about myself.

I'm across the country from my fam, entirely by my choice but never the less. I have to work full time to maintain a standard of living and I also attend school full time. Therefore, my time is stretched. That's why I asked about attending ALL events because I may not be able to do so. After high school I had every intention of attending "my choice" HBCU (thus not having to work so much) but my parents at the time couldn't afford it. I'm sure i could've thrown a tantrum but I've been through a great deal of things over the past 6 years so I put on my big girl britches and came to the realization maybe what I wanted wasn't for me.. Come to find out it was for my baby sister (love that girl dearly) and she is doing OUTSTANDING. Typically you'd think I would be super green but she's my sis & she's over there making all of us proudest people we could be right now. So I am content (but not entirely satisfied) that my post-high school plans didnt go as planned. So I'm here alone with ABSOLUTELY NO FAMILY & VERY few (& few is a stretch) friends (i do have my long time bf & his fam but you know "there's no one like your own mama or your own fam"). Before this, my family was EVERYTHING!

In a nutshell I have ALWAYS felt the urge to be a part of something bigger than myself helping people who otherwise wouldn't be helped & being a part of " a group in which i'm not seeking" OMG would just satisfy my spirit to the fullest because it's family, no matter what no one will ever understand you or be there for you or nurture you like family. I love my blood sisters to death & I just wouldn't know how to act if someday somebody told me I had thousands more! I just thirst for this in so many ways.. it's so hard to explain..

I could go into more detail but for the sake of all reading, I'll keep it right here

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by jforever21

That's the idea I was leaning towards. Just to give you all a better understanding of where I'm coming from, I'll give a few deets about myself.

I stopped here.

The long and the short of it is that you need to stop telling us and worry about the real life women who you need to talk to.

I personally don't care about your story because everyone has one. We can't help you either way beyond what we've told you. Good luck.

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I stopped here.

The long and the short of it is that you need to stop telling us and worry about the real life women who you need to talk to.

I personally don't care about your story because everyone has one. We can't help you either way beyond what we've told you. Good luck.

precious lamb.. funny that you say that. I told myself the same thing a little bit ago.. however, i just felt like somebody in here (this thread) would understand because Patty Pledge wasn't born "Patty member of XYZ".. she had questions & at a point i'm sure was just looking for someone to say "i understand" because they too were at one point in her same shoes. but i also understand you all are literally unable to help outside the norm.

In any case, you guys have been a great help and I am extremely gracious that this website has so many people willing to help out those of us who "are not interested".

keep posting <3

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jforever21

precious lamb.. funny that you say that. I told myself the same thing a little bit ago.. however, i just felt like somebody in here (this thread) would understand because Patty Pledge wasn't born "Patty member of XYZ".. she had questions & at a point i'm sure was just looking for someone to say "i understand" because they too were at one point in her same shoes. but i also understand you all are literally unable to help outside the norm.

In any case, you guys have been a great help and I am extremely gracious that this website has so many people willing to help out those of us who "are not interested".

keep posting <3

IDK? Sounds like you want our Sororities/Fraternities to compete for your "interest" and frankly, why? Either, you want to be a part of us or you don't. It's that simple.

The other issue is, your decision to join is yours alone. If extended an invitation to join, your questions about what its like will not be assuaged until you actually become a member. If you want to "pledge", then pledge yourself at the library and make all "A's" on all your next tests and classes... Seriously...

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

IDK? Sounds like you want our Sororities/Fraternities to compete for your "interest" and frankly, why? Either, you want to be a part of us or you don't. It's that simple.

The other issue is, your decision to join is yours alone. If extended an invitation to join, your questions about what its like will not be assuaged until you actually become a member. If you want to "pledge", then pledge yourself at the library and make all "A's" on all your next tests and classes... Seriously...

If that's what it sounds like, I may have been misunderstood... I thought the whole I idea was Patty Pledge competing for XYZ's interest not vice versa...

Yes, its my decision & based on my own merits "not the qualities or accomplishments of any other" (i read that on here a while back i forgot who posted that) and I was never intending to jump on anyone's back in the first place. And I have not posted any questions about what "im not interested in" is like after the intial business because if its meant for me to know, I'll know.. soo i am confused as to where one can confuse anything I've said or asked as me "asking" for anything other than the answers to a few basic questions..? Which have been answered already & have helped..

Don't take it as me being fresh or anything but i'd like to know so i can avoid it in the future.
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[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by jforever21

If that's what it sounds like, I may have been misunderstood... I thought the whole I idea was Patty Pledge competing for XYZ's interest not vice versa...

Yes, its my decision & based on my own merits "not the qualities or accomplishments of any other" (i read that on here a while back i forgot who posted that) and I was never intending to jump on anyone's back in the first place. And I have not posted any questions about what "im not interested in" is like after the intial business because if its meant for me to know, I'll know.. soo i am confused as to where one can confuse anything I've said or asked as me "asking" for anything other than the answers to a few basic questions..? Which have been answered already & have helped..

Don't take it as me being fresh or anything but i'd like to know so i can avoid it in the future.
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First of all, I don't appreciate the term "Patty Pledge". That's me. It is offensive to me and it is dumb thing to say on public messageboards about NPHC BGLO's in general.

Second, I do not understand what you are saying. It is cryptic at best. To me that means you are trying to ask questions beyond what we are willing to give and indicates you have failed to do your required research and actions to want to get to know the members on your campus. Others have kindly told you that if you attend all the "functions", they actually do know who you are...

Here's a bit of advice: Hustle for this, because it will not be handed to you on a silver platter. From my vantage point, there are no basic questions...

[jforever21]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

First of all, I don't appreciate the term "Patty Pledge". That's me. It is offensive to me and it is dumb thing to say on public messageboards about NPHC BGLO's in general.
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Here's a bit of advice: Hustle for this, because it will not be handed to you on a silver platter....

Ok, that's understandable. I had no clue the phrase existed until a few days ago. I wasn't aware that it was offensive because I have seen it so many times on this site and I'm definitely not the offensive type... But the note has been taken, and the term has been disintegrated.

I haven't been making any attempts at filling any of my posts with anything that may be deemed cryptic. I have only been asking the questions that I feel will lead me in the right direction of where I want to go. I'm not a huge fan of wasting time, so if I didn't ask what I feel is basic, I could be wasting time running around in too many directions and not getting anything accomplished.

Thanks for the advice! Every bit helps.
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