Recession Proof Dating? Is there such a thing?

[nittanyalum]

Wow, this thread took a turn somewhere - I didn't click in for a long time because of the "dating" title, but then I glance through and it turned into a singles vs. married thread! Reminded me of that SATC episode. I don't know, folks, all I got out of this so far is some of you need to get better friends and some need better taste in men. I know a whole bunch of happy, fun, cool married folks and some really miserable, lonely single folks. And just for the record, we don't find those single folks all that fun to go out with either, all they do is complain about their last boy/girlfriend, how they can't find a boy/girlfriend, how there are no good men/women left, etc. See? Turnabout's fair play, right?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Wow, this thread took a turn somewhere - I didn't click in for a long time because of the "dating" title, but then I glance through and it turned into a singles vs. married thread! Reminded me of that SATC episode. I don't know, folks, all I got out of this so far is some of you need to get better friends and some need better taste in men. I know a whole bunch of happy, fun, cool married folks and some really miserable, lonely single folks. And just for the record, we don't find those single folks all that fun to go out with either, all they do is complain about their last boy/girlfriend, how they can't find a boy/girlfriend, how there are no good men/women left, etc. See? Turnabout's fair play, right?

I think you're right. Obviously, because there is at least one married couple that I enjoy hanging out with. And I definitely have some miserable single friends.

I guess that's my silver lining for moving away to Chicago and putting 8 hours between me and these friends.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Wow, this thread took a turn somewhere - I didn't click in for a long time because of the "dating" title, but then I glance through and it turned into a singles vs. married thread! Reminded me of that SATC episode. I don't know, folks, all I got out of this so far is some of you need to get better friends and some need better taste in men. I know a whole bunch of happy, fun, cool married folks and some really miserable, lonely single folks. And just for the record, we don't find those single folks all that fun to go out with either, all they do is complain about their last boy/girlfriend, how they can't find a boy/girlfriend, how there are no good men/women left, etc. See? Turnabout's fair play, right?

Exactly! It definitely works both ways - I think the people who constantly talk about their courtships are generally the people who constantly talk about themselves anyway; more of a "self-absorbed" thing than a marriage thing.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by KSigkid

Exactly! It definitely works both ways - I think the people who constantly talk about their courtships are generally the people who constantly talk about themselves anyway; more of a "self-absorbed" thing than a marriage thing.

And! These will be the same people who talk about their kids all the time.

I think a lot of it comes down to not having much of a life outside of the relationship. You don't have a lot of other things to talk about; ergo, you talk about the relationship all the time. I have a few friends--single and married--who are guilty of this.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think a lot of it comes down to not having much of a life outside of the relationship. You don't have a lot of other things to talk about; ergo, you talk about the relationship all the time. I have a few friends--single and married--who are guilty of this.

Yep. And like you said, they're the heli-moms of our future.

First they have nothing to talk about except wedding, then they have nothing to talk about except hubby, then kids, then it's their kid's ACTIVITIES they become obsessed with because well, there's nothing left.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

And! These will be the same people who talk about their kids all the time.

I think a lot of it comes down to not having much of a life outside of the relationship. You don't have a lot of other things to talk about; ergo, you talk about the relationship all the time. I have a few friends--single and married--who are guilty of this.

True...if there's nothing else going on in their lives, and they have nothing else to talk about, they'll just focus on talking about each other and the marriage.