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[nikki1920]

*is now scared to get married*

lol

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by nikki1920

*is now scared to get married*

lol

I'm married. Have been for 3 years. It doesn't suck.

I'm currently a legal intern in a law practice which among other things, handles divorces. For those folks, marriage is a curse and divorce is a blessing. They often go on to have great second marriages.

Don't be scared, just exercise good judgment.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by nikki1920

*is now scared to get married*

lol

Some of us just aren't cut out to be married and, unfortunately, we don't find that out until we've tried it... sometimes twice..lol. I couldn't stand being married. I couldn't stand having to consult somebody else before I spent money. I couldn't stand cleaning up after someone else or not being able to find things because they weren't put away in the right place. I couldn't stand having to share my space or being woken up in the middle of the night because I was breathing too loud and keeping him awake. I hate whiskers in the sink. I hate cleaning up after people who should be totally capable of doing it themselves but never do. There was absolutely no benefit to being married for me in either of my former marriages. None, zip, zero, zilch. Both husbands personalities changed completely once we had that slip of paper. There's no way I'd do that again.

That said, back to the original topic. Right now, for me, someone who is unemployed is a deal breaker for a couple reasons. One, I date to go out and have fun and I'm finding that these unemployed guys aren't quite in a "fun" state of mind. Two, the unemployed guys have way too much time on their hands and want to hang out more than I have time for. They tend to want to get together too often. If you want to date me, you get no more than every other Saturday. That's when I have time for you, so don't push for more, thanks.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Some of us just aren't cut out to be married and, unfortunately, we don't find that out until we've tried it... sometimes twice..lol. I couldn't stand being married. I couldn't stand having to consult somebody else before I spent money. I couldn't stand cleaning up after someone else or not being able to find things because they weren't put away in the right place. I couldn't stand having to share my space or being woken up in the middle of the night because I was breathing too loud and keeping him awake. I hate whiskers in the sink. I hate cleaning up after people who should be totally capable of doing it themselves but never do. There was absolutely no benefit to being married for me in either of my former marriages. None, zip, zero, zilch. Both husbands personalities changed completely once we had that slip of paper. There's no way I'd do that again.

o.k. guys this post just scared the crap out of me.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. guys this post just scared the crap out of me.

Why?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Why?

I mean everything she said was negative. Not so much the sharing part, because I'm all about that. But the part about changing after the papers are signed. Then she said not eveyone is cut out for it. She tried it twice and it still didn't work.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. guys this post just scared the crap out of me.

There are plenty of people that doesn't happen to. Personally, I think I'd have found out had I lived with them first, but I never did. However, I did point out that I have very little tolerance for others' shortcomings (like not putting things away where they found them). That's my own flaw, but now that I recognize it, I know I couldn't live with someone again.

ETA: I should have recognized those things about myself because almost every college roommate I had drove me absolutely up a wall with their bad habits. Yes, I have bad habits too, but I'm ok with mine. It's other people's I can't deal with!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

There are plenty of people that doesn't happen to. Personally, I think I'd have found out had I lived with them first, but I never did. However, I did point out that I have very little tolerance for others' shortcomings (like not putting things away where they found them). That's my own flaw, but now that I recognize it, I know I couldn't live with someone again.

ETA: I should have recognized those things about myself because almost every college roommate I had drove me absolutely up a wall with their bad habits. Yes, I have bad habits too, but I'm ok with mine. It's other people's I can't deal with!

o.k. so then it's you. Not them. You said that they changed once the papers were signed. What about you? Did you change? So was it you that was the common denominator of the problems in both of your marriages? Dee, I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just asking.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. so then it's you. Not them. You said that they changed once the papers were signed. What about you? Did you change? So was it you that was the common denominator of the problems in both of your marriages? Dee, I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just asking.

Holy none of your business batman!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Holy none of your business batman!

It isn't, and I've long sent her a PM about it. Thanks.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Holy none of your business batman!

KSU you and I really are the same person.