local sorority disaffiliation; PLZ HELP :/

Originally Posted by jennamarie91

SORRY FOR THE NOVEL:

Hi. I am a member of a local sorority at my school. I pledged last semester, and i am a freshman. The problem is, im quite unhappy in this organization. I thought that after pledging ended that i would begin to get along with my sisters, but that didnt happen. Not only was it quite obvious to me that i was unhappy, but even those around me could tell....even after pledging *they treat* me like crap...and its kind of sad....but it seems to be just me that this happens to. Of all my sisters, i could probably say that i get along OK that is -- with two. everyone else ignores me at meetings, and i can honestly say that the only times they reach out to me is when dues or other things need to be paid....this is obviously not the sorority i always dreamed about.....to tell you the truth, the only reason why i went thru with the pledging, was because i didnt want to look like a quiter, but the consequences that have come, are far worse that looking like a quiter.

so my question is, can i disaffiliate with the sorority, since they are not national? [its kind of obvious, i made a wrong choice, and rushed into things] and its not like im leaving for stupid reasons, when i came into the organization, i came in with hopes of sisterhood, and having people that i can trust and be close to....i have received none of that...so i think its because of legitimate reasons. WHAT SHOULD I DO??

also, in the process, i have became close to many other girls from other organizations that have seen what ive been put thru...one in particular, is a multicultural sorority, all with girls that i can connect with....is it possible to join a multicultural sorority if i leave the other 1?

If you're not happy with your group, by all means...LEAVE. Why stick around if you're not happy?

And as for you joining the other group, we on GreekChat can't say for sure because we don't know their membership policy. Some groups accept members who've terminated their membership with other groups....and some don't. FYI: disaffiliate =/= terminate.

Please don't ask us what you should do. Only you can make that decision yourself.

[jennamarie91]

Originally Posted by OTW

If you're not happy with your group, by all means...LEAVE. Why stick around if you're not happy?

And as for you joining the other group, we on GreekChat can't say for sure because we don't know their membership policy. Some groups accept members who've terminated their membership with other groups....and some don't. FYI: disaffiliate =/= terminate.

Please don't ask us what you should do. Only you can make that decision yourself.

yes, i feel like that is the right thing to do, i feel so left out and lonely in my organization, that sometimes i forget that i am even in one. many of the girls in my sorority are very clique-y, & it is very hard to find a place for me in an organization like that. I AM A VERY FRIENDLY PERSON, many people find it weird that i am still not close to them.

But not to say its just me....because there is ALOT OF DRAMAAAA in this sorority. two sisters were about to FIGHT at a rushing event! now tell me, there isnt something wrong with that!!! no surprise there, we had no pledges this semester.......

[KSUViolet06]

This is a decision that only you can make.

Ask yourself: Would I regret leaving? Will I regret not being in a sorority?

In terms of cliques and drama though, I have to tell you that ANY group of women has this on SOME level. So don't think it is exclusive to your local sorority. Joining a different one will not automatically = a drama free experience.