Recruitment as a sophomore//gossiping

[AXOrushadvisor]

At the school I advise at every sorority gets a copy of the rush application with some information taken off. If your mother is high profile in the sorority I'm almost certain her group knew that you were going through and that you were a legacy. I know that being a legacy is not a bonus with the girls I advise for. For some reason they feel these girls (legacies) have a sense of entitlement. I fight hard for legacies because I personally feel like they make better members especially women who have an involved relative. They know what is expected in terms of behavior and service. Good luck to you. I hope recruitment turns out better for you this next time.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

I fight hard for legacies because I personally feel like they make better members especially women who have an involved relative. They know what is expected in terms of behavior and service. Good luck to you. I hope recruitment turns out better for you this next time.

Thank you. My roommate is currently going through COB and does not know anything about sororities. She is angry with the many rules and what is expected of her. I felt that it was slightly unfair that she's getting an "in" since she befriended a couple girls from a sorority, even though she doesn't know what she is getting into.

However there isn't anything that I can do until next fall.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

Thank you. My roommate is currently going through COB and does not know anything about sororities. She is angry with the many rules and what is expected of her. I felt that it was slightly unfair that she's getting an "in" since she befriended a couple girls from a sorority, even though she doesn't know what she is getting into.

However there isn't anything that I can do until next fall.

I'm confused. You're mad because your roommate, who knows very little about sororities, is getting a bid because she made friends in a chapter?

Besides this being how my Greek experience started, I don't understand why this is so bad... unless I'm missing something...

[ISUKappa]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I'm confused. You're mad because your roommate, who knows very little about sororities, is getting a bid because she made friends in a chapter?

Besides this being how my Greek experience started, I don't understand why this is so bad... unless I'm missing something...

If I'm reading into it correctly, I think she's frustrated because, as a legacy, she knows there are rules you have to follow as a member of a sorority: mandatory meetings, philanthropy, study hours etc... and her roommate is annoyed about those rules. Plus, she [brokengymnast] put in the effort to go through formal recruitment and did not get a bid while her roommate "has an in" through being friends with a few women. Granted, that's how informal recruitment generally works, but I can see how it can seem "unfair" to someone who went through formal.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by ISUKappa

If I'm reading into it correctly, I think she's frustrated because, as a legacy, she knows there are rules you have to follow as a member of a sorority: mandatory meetings, philanthropy, study hours etc... and her roommate is annoyed about those rules. Plus, she [brokengymnast] put in the effort to go through formal recruitment and did not get a bid while her roommate "has an in" through being friends with a few women. Granted, that's how informal recruitment generally works, but I can see how it can seem "unfair" to someone who went through formal.

Ok, that would make a little more sense. Thanks.

[brokengymnast75]

Originally Posted by ISUKappa

If I'm reading into it correctly, I think she's frustrated because, as a legacy, she knows there are rules you have to follow as a member of a sorority: mandatory meetings, philanthropy, study hours etc... and her roommate is annoyed about those rules. Plus, she [brokengymnast] put in the effort to go through formal recruitment and did not get a bid while her roommate "has an in" through being friends with a few women. Granted, that's how informal recruitment generally works, but I can see how it can seem "unfair" to someone who went through formal.

Yes, that is exactly how I feel. Thank you for clarifying that.