mistreated by my sorority?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by OTW

When I was in chapter, it was all about Friends and Will and Grace. Those were our bonding TV shows.

Aww.

I'm a fairly recent alumna so for us it was usually Grey's or One Tree Hill.

I didn't even LIKE those 2 shows, but I hung out in the TV room with girls anyway just so I could get to know the NMs.

[pinkyphimu]

There is plenty of good advice here. When I was in college, we had 2 friends join together. They were both pretty shy and kept to themselves. At meetings and events, they always sat just slightly away from the group. They always attended things, but managed to stay to themselves. Our exec board even tried to meet with them to make sure things were ok and to see what we could do to help them become more comfortable. Nothing helped. They stayed through graduation, but they are not active in alumnae groups. If you asked them about their collegiate days, they will tell you it was miserable and a waste. Don't be those people. Make an effort to get to know other pledge sisters and those around you.

[FSUZeta]

one of the positives that i read in your post is that you HAVE bonded with your pledge class. that is such a gift-your pledgesisters will be with you thruout your college career-the older girls are going to graduate and most likely move away. cherish your pledgesister friendships.

next year, if you feel the that the chapter truly falls a little short in their ability to make the new members feel welcome and wanted, then you be the change.

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by edhardy88

Exactly! Out of all our chapters - note that my school is very gossipy so everyone knows every one else's business, including the entirety of other sorority pledge classes! - my pc is by far my favorite, and i know rushing again and being with all freshmen would not be as fun!

Just an observation, then--if your school is very gossipy, the other groups may already know your thoughts about 'feeling neglected' or the 'meanest and most rude girl in the school.' I would be cautious about how much you say to others about some of the things you're unhappy about. Word can get back to the home group quickly and instead of producing more positive results, end up causing you to became stigmatized.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by icelandelf

Just an observation, then--if your school is very gossipy, the other groups may already know your thoughts about 'feeling neglected' or the 'meanest and most rude girl in the school.' I would be cautious about how much you say to others about some of the things you're unhappy about. Word can get back to the home group quickly and instead of producing more positive results, end up causing you to became stigmatized.

EXACTLY my thoughts. A little discretion is in order here.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by edhardy88

I feel like for the position I'm in, I've put myself out there and dealt with a lot of rejection from within the chapter. I'm not a pessimistic person - but I feel as though the more pessimistic and bland girls in my pledge class (overall, based on how they act in other aspects of life) are the ones having the best experience.

Originally Posted by edhardy88

It's hard though because I see sisters and they don't introduce themselves to me or say hi, so it put me in that awkward position of being creepy and knowing them or being the bitch who forgot someones name after 10 introductions.

Originally Posted by edhardy88

Exactly! Out of all our chapters - note that my school is very gossipy so everyone knows every one else's business, including the entirety of other sorority pledge classes! - my pc is by far my favorite, and i know rushing again and being with all freshmen would not be as fun!

Consider the fact that people are human and the fact that they don't introduce themselves is nit always a slight against you.

You say that you like your pledge class alot. I suggest hanging out with them and inviting yourself to go with them when they go hang out with older sisters. Girls may not be warming up to you because you are sitting back and feeling offended by girls not saying "hi" to you and such.

Also, you just have to let people warm up to you. So you joined a committee and the girls weren't all "OMG I love you." It's okay. It just takes time.

Also consider the fact that you needn't attempt to be friends with EVERY SINGLE older sister. It's okay to just seek out a few older girls and get to know them for now.

[edhardy88]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Consider the fact that people are human and the fact that they don't introduce themselves is nit always a slight against you.

You say that you like your pledge class alot. I suggest hanging out with them and inviting yourself to go with them when they go hang out with older sisters. Girls may not be warming up to you because you are sitting back and feeling offended by girls not saying "hi" to you and such.

Also, you just have to let people warm up to you. So you joined a committee and the girls weren't all "OMG I love you." It's okay. It just takes time.

Also consider the fact that you needn't attempt to be friends with EVERY SINGLE older sister. It's okay to just seek out a few older girls and get to know them for now.

I'm not offended by them not saying hi to me every day, because I'm just as much at fault for not remembering their names either, etc. I was only saying it's a little awkward to do the reintroduction thing like 10 times and I don't want to be known as the "awkward flaky girl" or something who can't remember anyone. And I'm only saying that about the committee because I am proving I'm trying to get involved! It's just that I feel like I'm putting more effort out there than I'm receiving back. No fun! lol