Ohioan rushing a Southern Fraternity

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

Brothers can walk out the weirdos whenever they want, but towards the middle of rush week we'll start walking out guys that are coming to every event but aren't faring real well at bid rounds, give them a chance to go somewhere else since my house isn't giving them a bid.

It seems like doing some relatively impersonal lists or invites would be so much easier. I'm not really advocating for a change, but invites that the guys actually had to pick up some place would allow them to save face and spare the brothers the awkwardness of rejecting a guy to his face.

Another big hint with guy's rush is that you all can actually give bids to guys you want early in the process. If a guy was hearing from other guys doing rush that they had gotten bids, that might help him clue in that he wasn't a chapters first choice. Do chapters have a point at which they put the word out that they are done extending bids?

How could a guy keep himself from getting walked out?

Also, what would you recommend for an out of state guy in terms of how to get invited to summer events? Is a good recommendation from an alumnus who knows him going to be enough? Could the alum who was willing to recommend him ask on his behalf for the guy to be invited or will that come off wrong and actually work against him?

My impression is that some chapters kind of pride themselves on only taking guys they know or who they know of from certain schools and hometown events, but I don't know how many chapters really want to turn down a good guy from out of state, assuming they could get to know him. What could he do to make it happen?

I realize I'm basically repeating what the OP asked a couple of posts ago, but I don't know the answer, and my instinctive answer is really based on sororities, so I don't have any idea it's close to accurate.

[PGroove11]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

My impression is that some chapters kind of pride themselves on only taking guys they know or who they know of from certain schools and hometown events, but I don't know how many chapters really want to turn down a good guy from out of state, assuming they could get to know him. What could he do to make it happen?

I realize I'm basically repeating what the OP asked a couple of posts ago, but I don't know the answer, and my instinctive answer is really based on sororities, so I don't have any idea it's close to accurate.

It's pretty clear that for me (along with fellow out-of-staters in the same situation) this is the majority of the battle/problem. I'm pretty sure that it'll come down how much someone (in my situation) really wants to be a part of it. If your that serious and confident then I think you'll show care for getting to know the guys and I eventually think that'll make an impression on the actives.

[UHDEEGEE]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Also, what would you recommend for an out of state guy in terms of how to get invited to summer events? Is a good recommendation from an alumnus who knows him going to be enough? Could the alum who was willing to recommend him ask on his behalf for the guy to be invited or will that come off wrong and actually work against him?

My impression is that some chapters kind of pride themselves on only taking guys they know or who they know of from certain schools and hometown events, but I don't know how many chapters really want to turn down a good guy from out of state, assuming they could get to know him. What could he do to make it happen?

I'd love to hear some specific suggestions, too!

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Also, what would you recommend for an out of state guy in terms of how to get invited to summer events? Is a good recommendation from an alumnus who knows him going to be enough? Could the alum who was willing to recommend him ask on his behalf for the guy to be invited or will that come off wrong and actually work against him?

I don't know how to get invited to summer events for us. Ours are not that important but I would bet that 60-75% of our pledges come to one of our three rush events in either Dallas, Little Rock or Memphis. But they all come through high school friends who hear of it/we invite.

Depending on who the alum is, he could certainly ask on behalf of the rushee if the rushee could be invited or so on.