true love

pinkangel · #1 04-10-2002, 01:26 AM

I'm in a position to be potentially dating one of my best friends, which I think is the best way to have a good relationship. I'm trying to figure out what I want to happen and I began thinking...

...how you know when it's true love?

I've never told a guy I love him before, I've never had the desire to. I have no idea what it's like to be in love, and I was wondering if I would notice it when it came around.

what are some of your stories and thoughts?

The1calledTKE · #2 04-10-2002, 01:37 AM

If when he enters the room you become instantly happy, you may be in love. If the thought of him being hurt makes you want to cry, you may be in love. If the thought of him dating another girls other than you drives you nuts, you may be in love. If none of these don't appy to you I would stick to being friends . If you date a friend and then break up it will never be the same again, so know or find out you love him before you make that decision.

Kevlar281 · #3 04-10-2002, 01:45 AM

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Originally posted by pinkangel
...how you know when it's true love?

I thought it a few times but never said, “I love you” to anyone; I have always been under the impression that I will just know when its right. Kind of like those people who get married and say they knew the first night they met.

LeslieAGD · #4 04-10-2002, 07:07 AM

It's so hard to explain, but Zntke made some good comparisons. For me, there was an instant attraction/pull to the person (this is what I call it...but it might have been love at first sight). Then when he left, I felt like a part of my heart was missing. I think if you can look past yourself and your needs and want someone to be happy (even when they're not with you), then that could be love.

justamom · #5 04-10-2002, 09:51 AM

I tried to answer this, but decided there ISN'T a pat answer. It's something that is uniquely yours. Just don't rush the moment.
If you have true feelings seperate from how you felt when you defined yourselves as "just friends", take it slow and let it happen naturally. Everyone has posted some sign posts along the way, so keep your mind and heart open so you don't miss them...which ever way they point.

SigmaChiCard · #6 04-10-2002, 05:07 PM

"I think one time before
I said I loved you,
but looking back now
I can that's so untrue"
---------Partly Cloudy

no real point to these lyrics, just thought I'd throw them out there

shultzz · #7 04-10-2002, 05:18 PM

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Originally posted by zntke711
If when he enters the room you become instantly happy, you may be in love. If the thought of him being hurt makes you want to cry, you may be in love. If the thought of him dating another girls other than you drives you nuts, you may be in love. If none of these don't appy to you I would stick to being friends . If you date a friend and then break up it will never be the same again, so know or find out you love him before you make that decision.

Those feelings wear off 2 seconds after you have sex, but if you still have the feelings 3 seconds after sex, then you are in love.

IowaHawkeye · #8 04-10-2002, 05:19 PM

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Originally posted by SigmaChiCard
"I think one time before
I said I loved you,
but looking back now
I can that's so untrue"
---------Partly Cloudy

I said I love you to a serious boyfriend... but looking back on it now... damn, it was not true love. I think when it's love, you just know

pinkangel · #9 04-11-2002, 12:24 AM

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Originally posted by IowaHawkeye

I said I love you to a serious boyfriend... but looking back on it now... damn, it was not true love. I think when it's love, you just know

kinda makes you wonder if you ever know it's true love. you could really love someone today, and get over it tomorrow if you had to. or you could really love someone today and it could last forever. seems like you only know with time.

Periwinkle · #10 04-13-2002, 11:59 AM

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Originally posted by pinkangel

kinda makes you wonder if you ever know it's true love. you could really love someone today, and get over it tomorrow if you had to. or you could really love someone today and it could last forever. seems like you only know with time.

My first love was in HS and now that I'm with somebody else, I can look back and see the difference between how I feel now and how I felt then. It was my decision to break up with my HS love when we both went away to separate colleges. I would follow my current love to Nome, Alaska to be with him.