Sweetheart Competitions

PANTHERTEKE · #1 01-13-2009, 08:05 PM

On my campus, all official Fraternity sweethearts (the ones that can wear letters) are chosen by the chapter (nominated and voted on).

The "unofficial" or "semi" sweethearts are usually crowned through a philanthropic pageant. Pike has "Pike Dream Girl," PiKapp has "Miss PUSH America," and this year SigEp and TKE will also start doing philanthropic pageants to choose semi-sweethearts.

Sororities either vote on their sweetheart or do pageants as well. AOII has the "Alpha Male" pageant, DPhiE has "Campus Man," AXiD has "Xi Man," and Tri-Sigma has "Backwards Pageant."

33girl · #2 01-14-2009, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

Sororities either vote on their sweetheart or do pageants as well. AOII has the "Alpha Male" pageant, DPhiE has "Campus Man," AXiD has "Xi Man," and Tri-Sigma has "Backwards Pageant."

D Phi Es correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think the "Campus Man" is the sweetheart...he is the campus man pageant winner. 2 different things. I think that might be the same for the others as well.

Sweethearts on my campus were chosen within the privacy of each GLO and it was a very high honor, with lots of different things going into the choice. We would never have allowed something like a pageant to make that choice for us.

PANTHERTEKE · #3 01-15-2009, 02:46 AM

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D Phi Es correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think the "Campus Man" is the sweetheart...he is the campus man pageant winner. 2 different things. I think that might be the same for the others as well.

Sweethearts on my campus were chosen within the privacy of each GLO and it was a very high honor, with lots of different things going into the choice. We would never have allowed something like a pageant to make that choice for us.

Of those GLOs you quoted, AOII is the only one who does a pageant as well as elect a sweetheart by the chapter (IIOA is their sweetheart, Alpha Male is their semi-sweetheart). The rest choose their "sweetheart" through their pageants.

33girl · #4 01-15-2009, 12:17 PM

In these "pageants" to determine sweetheart - who chooses the men who are going to compete?

BabyPiNK_FL · #5 01-15-2009, 12:35 PM

The chapters usually try to get men from each fraternity chapter to apply. Sometimes more than one from each chapter compete (depending on the pageant). I don't know if they've ever cut people because the money that they pay to apply usually goes to charity.

ASTalumna06 · #6 01-15-2009, 12:39 PM

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In these "pageants" to determine sweetheart - who chooses the men who are going to compete?

Yea, I’m confused. Does each chapter choose a few people to be their potential sweetheart, and then the men compete for the title? Or is there a big pool of guys, and random ones will win for different chapters, regardless of whether the chapter really knows them or not? Or something else completely?

Personally, I think that having a competition for a privilege such as this is kind of crazy. We have always chosen our sweethearts after carefully considering who has continuously been supportive of the chapter in a variety of ways. Last semester, my chapter’s sweetheart graduated, and the sisters have had a few people to choose from to be the next one. But they recently decided to hold off on choosing a new one until the end of this semester, as all of the sisters don’t feel that they truly know each of these guys well enough to make an informed decision. They don't want to quickly pick someone just to have a sweetheart... and they shouldn't. I just think that leaving it up to fate might produce less-than-ideal results. And IMO, it takes away from the meaning behind the title.

PANTHERTEKE · #7 01-15-2009, 01:09 PM

Anyone can really participate in these pageants, but the people that usually do are close with chapter members and actually have a chance at winning the title. It's not like random GDIs compete and have a chance of winning.

ETA: You have to fill out an application and sometimes pay a fee to participate.

AOII Angel · #8 01-16-2009, 11:07 PM

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Of those GLOs you quoted, AOII is the only one who does a pageant as well as elect a sweetheart by the chapter (IIOA is their sweetheart, Alpha Male is their semi-sweetheart). The rest choose their "sweetheart" through their pageants.

That's funny! IIOAs have traditionally been AOII husbands (some alum chapters actually made initiation rituals for this! None sanctioned by AOII, of course.) My chapter elected a Beaux each year...it was Louisiana, so that's a logical name. Alpha Male is cute. The chapter I advise does a philanthropic event in which men compete to be the AOII "Pi Guy".