Wedding Invitation Etiquette Question

OneTimeSBX · #1 11-10-2008, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn

It sounds strange, but I like that idea better than a green back. We actually let everyone know who gave us cash at our wedding that their gift would be used toward the downpayment of a home.

i am just always so nervous about who you turn off when you steer from the norm, you know? some people think registries are pushy, others think money is rude...not that im would get married for the gifts lol, but traditions are traditions for some people! i would love money towards a house, but wouldnt DARE imply that, because our families are extra old-school and would probably opt to skip the gift altogether!

Munchkin03 · #2 11-10-2008, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i would love money towards a house, but wouldnt DARE imply that, because our families are extra old-school and would probably opt to skip the gift altogether!

I'm not that old-school, but when my cousin sent her tacky-ass wishing well poem in the invite, I opted out a present altogether. When I personally ask people, however, if they want something special from their registries and they say that they'd really just prefer cash, I'll happily oblige. It's a difference between being asked and advertising that you want money.

KSUViolet06 · #3 11-10-2008, 02:01 PM

I don't know, I just kind of feel like couples could take the money they'd spend for the wedding itself and put it toward said down payment, if they really want a home badly enough to make a registry out of it.

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

honeychile · #4 11-10-2008, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

KSUViolet06 · #5 11-10-2008, 03:21 PM

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I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

Oh yes, not only should we PAY for the home, but furnish it with dishes and knick knacks as well.

Oh no need for you buy me an etiquette book because I'm not going. I was just too outdone by the invite and registries to even show my face.

honeychile · #6 11-10-2008, 03:24 PM

I just sent "Larry" an email, congratulating him on becoming the King of All Things Tacky. His scheme really takes the cake! I have never done anything like that before, and I feel... dirty.

Munchkin03 · #7 11-10-2008, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

OneTimeSBX · #8 11-10-2008, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

do it! wrap it up nicely, bookmark the page that they need to refer to, and dont put a name on it! let THEM speculate who was ballsy enough to give it as a gift lol

Munchkin03 · #9 11-10-2008, 04:30 PM

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do it! wrap it up nicely, bookmark the page that they need to refer to, and dont put a name on it! let THEM speculate who was ballsy enough to give it as a gift lol

You know I'll do it, too!

I love etiquette and protocol-related stuff. I have a copy of Amy Vanderbilt's all-purpose book, and Emily Post's wedding book on my bookshelf at home. Nothing makes me happier than knowing when someone's been tacky.

KSUViolet06 · #10 11-10-2008, 05:17 PM

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I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

You know, Miss Home Buying Registry just might get an etiquette book from me. You should have seen my face when I not only saw THAT, but the Crate & Barrel registry card as well. It's as if they want us to BUY the home AND furnish it. Craziness. Like I said before, can't afford a home = you most likely do not need to be having a wedding.

honeychile · #11 11-11-2008, 02:16 PM

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought it was considered tacky to enclose such registry cards, that someone was to discreetly mention, "Sophronia & Hugo are registered at Macy's."

RaggedyAnn · #12 11-10-2008, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I don't know, I just kind of feel like couples could take the money they'd spend for the wedding itself and put it toward said down payment, if they really want a home badly enough to make a registry out of it.

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

That is tacky. I just thought there was the one registry.