eHarmony=eHotmess

Zephyrus · #1 11-01-2008, 03:04 AM

This is an interesting topic. I tried eharmony once. I was separated at the time, and they told me to come back in 6 months. I was going through a divorce. I was only married for barely a year so I thought it was a little harsh to reject me because I was separated.

smiley21 · #2 11-01-2008, 08:36 AM

I have tried eHarmony once, and there was no problem with matching me with men of other races. I never knew other people had a problem.

GMUBunny · #3 11-01-2008, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Zephyrus

This is an interesting topic. I tried eharmony once. I was separated at the time, and they told me to come back in 6 months. I was going through a divorce. I was only married for barely a year so I thought it was a little harsh to reject me because I was separated.

eHarmony has a strict policy of not allowing users who are not legally single to have accounts. You have to be unmarried. Separated doesn't count. Which I can kind of understand, but still. My husband and I met on match. It worked well for about the first 3 years. Now we're separated and going through a divorce as soon as I can get the paperwork filed. I won't be trying to find a date on eHarmony, though. That's for certain.

Zephyrus · #4 11-03-2008, 07:33 AM

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eHarmony has a strict policy of not allowing users who are not legally single to have accounts. You have to be unmarried. Separated doesn't count. Which I can kind of understand, but still. My husband and I met on match. It worked well for about the first 3 years. Now we're separated and going through a divorce as soon as I can get the paperwork filed. I won't be trying to find a date on eHarmony, though. That's for certain.

I think that's a little strict. I could see if a couple hadn't been separated long, but my ex wife and I had been apart for a while. Sorry to hear about your divorce. Online dating has gotten popular and I'm sure more people meet online these days because of the busy lifestyles people are living. It doesn't matter if you meet someone online or the traditional way of dating, if you meet/marry the wrong person, it won't work either way. I'm just saying this because you'd be surprised, a lot of people think it's crazy to get serious, let alone marry someone who you met online. I personally don't think anything is wrong with it. People are people, regardless.

AGDee · #5 11-03-2008, 07:52 AM

After a good friend of mine from highschool met his woman on plentyoffish.com, I tried it. I don't know if it's my area, or the age range I'm looking at or what, but every response I got was from a bottom feeder. All those laid off autoworkers who call themselves "retired" because they took a buy out package and haven't found another job yet, especially.

I filled out the eharmony profile and did the three month free trial. When I did the profile, it popped back saying they have no matches for me. That continued until about 2 days before I had to pay if I wanted to continue and then a match popped up. Amazing timing. When it first popped out the "we have no matches for you" I laughed hysterically because I often say that my ideal man does not exist. It was like proof!

Then there was match.com, where the first match that came up was my ex-husband. Yeah, on paper, we're perfect for each other. Reality is another story!

GMUBunny · #6 11-03-2008, 05:22 PM

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I think that's a little strict. I could see if a couple hadn't been separated long, but my ex wife and I had been apart for a while. Sorry to hear about your divorce. Online dating has gotten popular and I'm sure more people meet online these days because of the busy lifestyles people are living. It doesn't matter if you meet someone online or the traditional way of dating, if you meet/marry the wrong person, it won't work either way. I'm just saying this because you'd be surprised, a lot of people think it's crazy to get serious, let alone marry someone who you met online. I personally don't think anything is wrong with it. People are people, regardless.

I wouldn't personally be looking for someone who's not quite legally divorced, so it doesn't matter much to me whether they let them sign up or not. I do understand their reasoning, though.

Re: my divorce- We are better friends than we are marriage partners. Neither of us is really built for a long-term committed relationship with a title. We knew it was a gamble going into it, and it didn't work. I just wish that if both sides recognize it was a mistake and aren't trying to take each other to the cleaners, that our divorce could be done at like, a drive-through or something.

NinjaPoodle · #7 11-03-2008, 06:59 PM

In a nutshell, eharmony sucks rotten eggs. The matches they sent me were, ummm to put it nicely, not physically attractive which I stated I that wanted nice looking guys. When I wrote them to discuss the matter, they gave me some lame excuse about matching people based on personality which I agree with to a degree but I argued that humans are physically attracted to each other first. Also, the matches were too far away and personality wise didn't match what I was looking for.

When I found out they didn't match same sex couples and I found out some of my gay friends had been rejected because they were gay, I canceled my account.

VAgirl18 · #8 11-19-2008, 09:06 PM

Apparently eHarmony is launching a site to match same-sex couples..

http://www.azcentral.com/business/co...yGays1119.html

ASUADPi · #9 11-23-2008, 10:14 AM

I've tried match.com, which was okay. I met my ex through that and that relationship, well to put it nicely didn't end very pleasantly (he was incredibly awful to me).

My biggest "pet-peeve" with eharmony is that I want kids, there is no if, ands, or buts about it. So I find it really annoying when I get matched with men who say "maybe" on the kids issue. Maybe isn't good enough for me. I know that sounds shallow but I have seen way to many marriages go bust because 1 person wanted kids and the other spouse didn't. Honestly, that is how I weed through my crazy amount of matches if they say "maybe" to kids I just close the match. IDK in my opinion, you either want kids or you don't want kids, there shouldn't be a "maybe".

I find eharmony just like match.com, you may "match up" perfect on paper but meeting in person is another issue entirely.

kstar · #10 11-23-2008, 11:51 AM

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Apparently eHarmony is launching a site to match same-sex couples..

http://www.azcentral.com/business/co...yGays1119.html

Only as part of a settlement to avoid a lengthy civil rights trial in New Jersey.

That could be in the article, but I felt it was important enough that it should be in the post.

eHarmony isn't doing it because they want to or think they should, they feel forced to do so.

CutiePie2000 · #11 12-26-2008, 02:44 PM

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In a nutshell, eharmony sucks rotten eggs. The matches they sent me were, ummm to put it nicely, not physically attractive....

I had the same experience - EHarmony sucks donkeys.

VandalSquirrel · #12 12-26-2008, 07:43 PM

I'm tempted to do it as a social science experiment. I couldn't meet anyone worse than who I've met randomly. Sad thing is the last decent guy I dated (no BS, no lying, we still talk) I met in a BAR, and the guys I meet elsewhere are awful.

PrettyBoy · #13 12-27-2008, 12:56 PM

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When I found out they didn't match same sex couples and I found out some of my gay friends had been rejected because they were gay, I canceled my account.

I'm not a member, but if I was, once I found out they started that same sex mess, I would have cancelled my account.

dreamseeker · #14 01-11-2010, 11:27 PM

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I'm not a member, but if I was, once I found out they started that same sex mess, I would have cancelled my account.

homophobic much?

i'm stealing your siggy though.