Concerned Pledge

[Jeremy121588]

Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

It's a fraternity. He's not required to do anything, he can be socially active and pay dues, never go to chapter, and do every social event they have. Pledging is way more work unless you want to be an officer.

that is not true, I know my chapter requires attendace in chapter meetings or you get fined, a good GPA to be able to vote, and 15 hours of community service each semester

[CrackerBarrel]

Originally Posted by Jeremy121588

that is not true, I know my chapter requires attendace in chapter meetings or you get fined, a good GPA to be able to vote, and 15 hours of community service each semester

It's absolutely true at my chapter and most others that I'm familiar with. Anyways, how's sorority life treating you?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

It's absolutely true at my chapter and most others that I'm familiar with. Anyways, how's sorority life treating you?

*dead*

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

Anyways, how's sorority life treating you?

Hahahaha...no but really, I pretty much agree. All of the fraternities my friends are in have absurdly lax policies for what you have to show up for and they still have great social, rush, etc. I guess it's just one of the bigger differences between fraternities and sororities.

[johnc]

I understand that I will need to speak to my pledge educator, but what would be the best way to approach this? Should I send him an email asking to set up a meeting, or wait until after a pledge meeting to address my concerns?

[CrackerBarrel]

Originally Posted by johnc

I understand that I will need to speak to my pledge educator, but what would be the best way to approach this? Should I send him an email asking to set up a meeting, or wait until after a pledge meeting to address my concerns?

I still say just stick it out. College has plenty of things to distract you other than fraternity life. Pledging is by far more work than being a brother and you are admittedly almost done with it already. So you have terrible grades and nothing to show for it this semester if you drop. My grades were a little worse as a pledge, but not significantly so. It all comes down to time management and work ethic, if you aren't making good grades to start with dropping pledging isn't going to help, you're just going to get distracted by something else instead.

That said, if you really want to quit just go to the damn house and talk to him, you don't need to set up a meeting and try to deal with this by email.

[Styrofoam]

Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel

It's absolutely true at my chapter and most others that I'm familiar with. Anyways, how's sorority life treating you?

This is a HORRIBLE attitude. Holding pledges to a higher standard than the brothers is a disaster. It sets your chapter up for failure, or at least a smaller amount of success than it would otherwise be capable. Brothers at my chapter have a MUCH harder time than the pledges. We require you be at at chapter meetings, initiation and pledging ceremonies, and I-Week activities, Have committed to memory part of the ritual, and participation in some sort of philanthropy EVERY semester.

You might call us a "sorority" but we're in the process of making good men better, and not all about going out and "having a good time." We can have a good time, but business needs to be taken care of first. thats all there is to it.


to answer the OP's question: Just be a man about it. Go to a pledge meeting and say it in front of your pledge brothers and your pledge educator. Let them know how you feel, that you enjoyed your time with the guys, that you'll try and come back if your studies allow it, and be done with it. The pledge ed will let the brothers know.