What to do

[justamom]

If you are considering starting a chapter, you really should read (start to current post) wishinandhopin's thread under Rush-Rush at UCSC. It shows the level of commitment it takes to develop your idea.

As far as friends changing-It happens. Chances are it could have happened anyway. With the schedules these girls have, from the very moment they accept a bid, it seems there isn't much time left over for outside activities. It doesn't ALWAYS mean that they don't miss being with you. There are other possible reason of course, and those too are part of life's realities.

Fall rush or COB are good prospects. Like many have said-the recruitment process(especially formal recruitment) doesn't give either side a real picture of the other. In a more relaxed setting, you could be pleasantly surprised at how comfortable you feel with any number of these groups. As far as "gossip", take it with a grain of salt and find out for yourself- unless you KNOW the source or the individuals involved.