Advice and status of my move in

[ZTAngel]

Originally Posted by Gretchen W

Maybe I'm looking too far into this, but this has happened to me several times before. Whenever, I try to get involved with a guy I like, or when I do get involved with him, some bitch gets involved knowing about me.

Have you ever sat back and done an evaluation of the type of guy you've been seeking out? I'm about to go all Dr. Phil on you but I've seen this happen with several of my friends where they are constantly getting cheated on by their significant other and can't understand why it keeps happening to them. Subconsciously, they (and you) might be seeking out guys who are like this because of your own hesitation to get emotionally involved with someone or because you're not ready for that long-term commitment. If it happens once, that sucks but if you're continually getting into relationships with men who wind up straying then I think you need to do some self-discovery and find out why you're going after this type of guy.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by ZTAngel

Have you ever sat back and done an evaluation of the type of guy you've been seeking out? I'm about to go all Dr. Phil on you but I've seen this happen with several of my friends where they are constantly getting cheated on by their significant other and can't understand why it keeps happening to them. Subconsciously, they (and you) might be seeking out guys who are like this because of your own hesitation to get emotionally involved with someone or because you're not ready for that long-term commitment. If it happens once, that sucks but if you're continually getting into relationships with men who wind up straying then I think you need to do some self-discovery and find out why you're going after this type of guy.

Seconded. My best friend doesn't pick cheaters, she picks just straight up douchebags.

[Gretchen W]

Originally Posted by ZTAngel

Have you ever sat back and done an evaluation of the type of guy you've been seeking out? I'm about to go all Dr. Phil on you but I've seen this happen with several of my friends where they are constantly getting cheated on by their significant other and can't understand why it keeps happening to them. Subconsciously, they (and you) might be seeking out guys who are like this because of your own hesitation to get emotionally involved with someone or because you're not ready for that long-term commitment. If it happens once, that sucks but if you're continually getting into relationships with men who wind up straying then I think you need to do some self-discovery and find out why you're going after this type of guy.

I agree up to a certain point. I am ready for a long term commitment, but I just can't find a guy who equally feels the same way. It's getting to the point where I don't trust myself when it comes to choosing the right guy.