Your input please?

[gee_ess]

Girls do fall through the cracks when it is time to vote on pref round invitations (or any invitations for that matter) Just like in the real world, voting takes place and the outcome is not the expected one - that could have happened to your daughter. It could have happened for a variety of reasons. Sometimes strange turns of event take place during the long, stressful, emotional, late nights of recruitment. More than likely, those who knew her in the house were probably not able to convince the entire chapter. And, although I disagree with Benzgirl's assessment that in some chapters "only a safe bet" gets invited to pref, often the chapter will not extend a pref invite if a pnm is not well known among the membership. (by well known, I mean they don't easily recognize her name, etc.)

I have real questions about the phone call from the president because that sure seems like a major rush infraction to me. It almost sounds like they realized they totally messed up not inviting her and wanted to make sure they get a chance at her during COB before she starts considering another house.

Truthfully, there is often no rhyme or reason to what takes place during recruitment, and this could be one of those situations. It happened, and now she can do what's in her best interest and continue moving forward with this group.

Best of luck!

[violetpretty]

Most of the time, I would scratch my head at the thought of a chapter cutting a PNM, not making quota, and then asking her to come back. If this is a "popular" chapter, it is possible this chapter is forced by Panhellenic to make a lot of cuts per the release figure method and the PNMs they wanted the most (that they invited to preference) matched elsewhere. I've seen it happen at my campus. Also, with "popular" chapters, they no doubt have to cut PNMs that they do genuinely like because of the number given to them by Panhellenic.

What is weird is that:
1. They called her during preference round (how did they know she had no invitations?).
2. They called her during preference round (how did they know they would not make quota?).
3. They called her and gave her a reason for her release.

Your daughter should attend any events they invite her to if she likes this chapter. She should focus on her opportunities rather than the reasons (and their validity) this may have happened, because there's really no way to know.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Most of the time, I would scratch my head at the thought of a chapter cutting a PNM, not making quota, and then asking her to come back. If this is a "popular" chapter, it is possible this chapter is forced by Panhellenic to make a lot of cuts per the release figure method and the PNMs they wanted the most (that they invited to preference) matched elsewhere. I've seen it happen at my campus. Also, with "popular" chapters, they no doubt have to cut PNMs that they do genuinely like because of the number given to them by Panhellenic.

What is weird is that:
1. They called her during preference round (how did they know she had no invitations?).
2. They called her during preference round (how did they know they would not make quota?).
3. They called her and gave her a reason for her release.

Your daughter should attend any events they invite her to if she likes this chapter. She should focus on her opportunities rather than the reasons (and their validity) this may have happened, because there's really no way to know.

I agree that all of that is weird, but I've seen a lot of collegians do whatever they thought was right instead of checking the rules first to see what really is correct in a situation. I wonder if their school gives out a list of women who have been dropped from recruitment? It could also be that they called Panhel when they noticed her name wasn't on the list. They may not have wanted to actually cut her. We actually had the opposite situation once. On my campus, the panhel delegates would keep track of who was invited back to each round and hand deliver the list each night. Our panhel rep went to the bathroom during MS and didn't hear us cut a girl the night before pref. The next day, she was on our list and all hell broke loose. She came to our party and ended up pledging our chapter. Weird, huh?! It all worked out in the end, but my point is that stranger things have happened in recruitment!