Advice and status of my move in

[agzg]

Is this other girl friendly to you? There's a chance that she has a good friendship with your fiance or is just a very friendly person. If she's friendly to you, try reciprocating. You might end up liking her. If you want to make your presence at home "known" to her, don't be a Creepy McCreeperson and hang out outside the door in the other room - pop in and say "Hey I'm getting a drink, does anyone want anything?" Or "I'm gonna make a snack, want something?" You'll get much farther in your jealousy issues regarding her if you're actively friendly to her than you will if you sit and stew all night.

Your fiance should be walking her to her car.

You probably have never been, nor will you always be, the only woman in your fiance's life. You're going to have to share him from time to time.

At least they come to your house to study - You know where he is, and what he's doing, and who he's doing it with. And honestly - if I had a nickel for every time my boyfriend brushed off the fact that I was studying late with a bunch of men while we were not only not living together, but not even in the same state, I'd be able to offset my recent losses in the stock market. If he can handle that, then there's no reason to be freaking out over what's going on in your own home.

Good luck with everything, hopefully you can get all of this worked out before the wedding.

DSTCHAOS would have been perfect in this thread.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

Is this other girl friendly to you? There's a chance that she has a good friendship with your fiance or is just a very friendly person. If she's friendly to you, try reciprocating. You might end up liking her. If you want to make your presence at home "known" to her, don't be a Creepy McCreeperson and hang out outside the door in the other room - pop in and say "Hey I'm getting a drink, does anyone want anything?" Or "I'm gonna make a snack, want something?" You'll get much farther in your jealousy issues regarding her if you're actively friendly to her than you will if you sit and stew all night.

I sgree 100%.

If you have all these negative feelings about her hanging around, I'm willing to bet you probably aren't being very nice to her when she's there. When he feels that his friend is not welcome, that's going to cause conflict and eventually resentment.

Don't be "That Girl" who has an attitude with every single girl who walks through the door for him, thinking that she wants your man. You know, the girl who doesn't speak, but just sulks and gives dirty looks until they leave. My friend had a live-in gf who was like this and we always thought she was a total bitch.